I'm polite....and usually it's not hard to figure out vibe of other woman, based on gut feel, after 1-3 interactions. Reality is my friends do tend to fall within similar, but broad spectrum even though with some very different lifestyles. For sure, some diverse age ranges.
Spending friendship time for me in terms of a "long" time is several hours together mininum or even longer with a good friend. That has been the norm for me in past few decades. Much of it is talking, not just wordlessly doing stuff for several hrs.
I'm not at all, 1-2 hr. friend person, when I do stuff each time, with a good friend. Time spent is 98% with each friend, longer than that.
So I respectfully disagree... am very blessed with multiple friendships 50 yrs. long to 13 yrs. long. Several friends where I've vacationed with each for several days. I expect such friendships.....for life, with some, since teen or university days. Do understand this is sustaining friendships and making efforts to visit each other, in different locations across Canada. And visiting each other several times. Most of my friends aren't into facetiming or frequent lengthy phone calls. (Obviously different for other folks here.)
Life for all us, is full of interesting details and complications that's too much to convey online.