SuzieQ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #1 Posted August 14, 2014 I have been separated for 4 years and divorced for close to one. I still use my married name, should I go back to my maiden name? And, is the hassle with it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kzoo Posted August 14, 2014 Share #2 Posted August 14, 2014 I have been separated for 4 years and divorced for close to one. I still use my married name, should I go back to my maiden name? And, is the hassle with it? Do you use your current name professionally? Will it matter there? Will it make you happier to feel the last connection severed? So. I have no suggestions for you. only questions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UglyBob Posted August 14, 2014 Share #3 Posted August 14, 2014 Are you planning on going out of the country any time soon? Changing a passport can take some time and could impact plans. It's not just about changing your name, it's also about the timing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #4 Posted August 14, 2014 But SuzieQ is purrfect! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted August 14, 2014 Share #5 Posted August 14, 2014 If you desire to cut the ties with the married name then certainly. It's interesting. Men never have to think about this. I'll ask my wife what she thinks she'd do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Longjohn ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #6 Posted August 14, 2014 I'm glad to see you only want to change your real name. It drives my crazy when forumites keep changing their forum names. My eldest son got married and both he and his wife changed their last name to a hyphenated name. The marriage lasted less than a year, he still has the hyphenated last name. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JerrySTL ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #7 Posted August 14, 2014 If and when you get married again, and if you'd want to take your new husband's name, then you would save some hassle not changing your name now. That's one silly and convoluted argument in favor of not changing your name now. Do what ever will make you happy. That's the best answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #8 Posted August 14, 2014 It is up to you But as Bob said...you might want to wait til after the India trip!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrAzY Posted August 14, 2014 Share #9 Posted August 14, 2014 Personally I would leave it alone.. You will have a problem changing all cards, passport license taxes ect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted August 14, 2014 Share #10 Posted August 14, 2014 I wouldn't do it if you are published or use that name in business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuzieQ Posted August 14, 2014 Author Share #11 Posted August 14, 2014 Do you use your current name professionally? Will it matter there? Will it make you happier to feel the last connection severed? So. I have no suggestions for you. only questions. Yes, I use my current name professionally, but don't thing it would matter that much if I changed it. No, it wouldn't make me happier to sever the last connection, in fact it would probably make me sad to have a different last name to my children. For some reason, recently when I think of my last name I think of his family, and I know they really dislike me and blame me for this split. In other ways to me it's just a name and doesn't define me in anyway, I don't really feel like either of my last names is who I am. I was just thinking that maybe it's weird to keep your ex husband's last name? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #12 Posted August 14, 2014 I'm glad to see you only want to change your real name. It drives my crazy when forumites keep changing their forum names. My eldest son got married and both he and his wife changed their last name to a hyphenated name. The marriage lasted less than a year, he still has the hyphenated last name. jsharr is my maiden name. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Former member Posted August 14, 2014 Share #13 Posted August 14, 2014 If I were to change my name it would be to something common for someone of a different race/nationality. When I used to go to Interbike every year, the shop owner would let us pick our names for our admittance passes. One year I was Lyle Menedez, another year I was Koichi Yamamoto. It was fun to see the looks of sales reps when using my name during their product pitch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #14 Posted August 14, 2014 If I were to change my name it would be to something common for someone of a different race/nationality. When I used to go to Interbike every year, the shop owner would let us pick our names for our admittance passes. One year I was Lyle Menedez, another year I was Koichi Yamamoto. It was fun to see the looks of sales reps when using my name during their product pitch. I would be Fromundo Yerbalzak! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Former member Posted August 14, 2014 Share #15 Posted August 14, 2014 I would be Fromundo Yerbalzak!another name was Henauder Teetzoff 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted August 14, 2014 Share #16 Posted August 14, 2014 My Mother is disturbed that my nickname has to do with my married name. <shrug> Some people started using my initials, and it stuck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chopped Liver Posted August 14, 2014 Share #17 Posted August 14, 2014 I should change mine to yakov smirnoff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #18 Posted August 14, 2014 I should change mine to yakov smirnoff You should change your name to Ivan Ajerkoff 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chopped Liver Posted August 14, 2014 Share #19 Posted August 14, 2014 You should change your name to Ivan Ajerkoff Ivanna Hump Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaddeus Kosciuszko Posted August 14, 2014 Share #20 Posted August 14, 2014 If you decide to change your name, I'd suggest thinking about names other than your maiden name. If you're going to go through all the trouble of changing it, why restrict your choices to just one name? This is your chance to give yourself the name you always wanted! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #21 Posted August 14, 2014 If you decide to change your name, I'd suggest thinking about names other than your maiden name. If you're going to go through all the trouble of changing it, why restrict your choices to just one name? This is your chance to give yourself the name you always wanted! He is right. There are quite a few names for you to choose from besides the one you have now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #22 Posted August 14, 2014 Way back in the olden days...about 20-25 years ago, I knew a woman who loved her husband...but hated his last name...She changed hers...but not to her maiden name...unfortunately I don't remember what name she took..but she found his German name too depressing. Another friend of mine uses an ancestors last name..but not her dad's polish last name.... Unfortunately, changing your last name isn't going to make a difference with your ex's family.....they will still blame you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randomguy Posted August 14, 2014 Share #23 Posted August 14, 2014 Keep it, I suppose. It really is just a name, and one syllable names are cool. Is the current name better than the maiden name? I would just leave it alone unless you are aching to change it, which it sounds like you aren't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Karen_Cooper_Incident Posted August 14, 2014 Share #24 Posted August 14, 2014 You should change your name to Couchita. Couch 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted August 14, 2014 Share #25 Posted August 14, 2014 You should change your name to Couchita. Couch That would be Sofa King Great! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris... Posted August 14, 2014 Share #26 Posted August 14, 2014 Change it to Quatro 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuzieQ Posted August 14, 2014 Author Share #27 Posted August 14, 2014 If you decide to change your name, I'd suggest thinking about names other than your maiden name. If you're going to go through all the trouble of changing it, why restrict your choices to just one name? This is your chance to give yourself the name you always wanted! I don't think I could do that to my family! Even though my dad is not alive, I couldn't do that to him, he was very proud of our family history and heritage and name, which I am too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chopped Liver Posted August 14, 2014 Share #28 Posted August 14, 2014 You'll always be SuzieQ to me, no matter what you do with your real name. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaddeus Kosciuszko Posted August 15, 2014 Share #29 Posted August 15, 2014 Way back in the olden days...about 20-25 years ago, I knew a woman who loved her husband...but hated his last name...She changed hers...but not to her maiden name...unfortunately I don't remember what name she took..but she found his German name too depressing. Wow! You knew Eva Braun!?!? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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