a bunch of numbers Posted October 26, 2013 Share #1 Posted October 26, 2013 "loan" her the money. Knowing I'll probably never get it back. The ex wife asked to borrow $200 so she can fly up to Buffalo to go the football game with her siblings next week. Her brother is a big Chiefs fan, and the family if originally from Buffalo. So, her brothers, their wives, and some friends rented an RV and are driving in from NJ for the game. I guess he has extra tickets and has booked extra hotel rooms Neither she nor her boyfriend works, he gets some sort of disability. Why doesn't she ask one of her brothers? Pride I think. Anyway.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randomguy Posted October 26, 2013 Share #2 Posted October 26, 2013 I would tell her to pound sand, sounds like you won't get it back, and you are being used as a financial pawn. I don't know all the details, though, but I think you should takethe $200 and get a hooker, take pictures and tell the ex what you used her money for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted October 26, 2013 Share #3 Posted October 26, 2013 I wouldn't feel guilty for not loaning it to her. But if you choose to 'give' ithe money to her, don't feel guilty about that either. It simply means you're a nice guy. And there isn't anything wrong with that. Don't be guilted either way. Peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted October 26, 2013 Share #4 Posted October 26, 2013 I wouldn't give her the money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randomguy Posted October 26, 2013 Share #5 Posted October 26, 2013 I wouldn't give her the money. Why would you give her the money? Didn't she screw you in the divorce? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted October 26, 2013 Share #6 Posted October 26, 2013 WTH?! No one else voted for H&B? C'mon, RG! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AirwickWithCheese Posted October 26, 2013 Share #7 Posted October 26, 2013 Give her the $ unless it is any type of burden on your current family situation. You are still tied to her with history and it's the benevolent thing to do. PS. Please also send me 200.00. Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a bunch of numbers Posted October 26, 2013 Author Share #8 Posted October 26, 2013 Why would you give her the money? Didn't she screw you in the divorce? Yeah, you could say that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JerrySTL ★ Posted October 26, 2013 Share #9 Posted October 26, 2013 For food, utilities, broke down car? Maybe. To see a football game with family? Not only no, but hell no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuzieQ Posted October 26, 2013 Share #10 Posted October 26, 2013 For food, utilities, broke down car? Maybe. To see a football game with family? Not only no, but hell no. this is my feeling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Road Runner Posted October 26, 2013 Share #11 Posted October 26, 2013 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted October 26, 2013 Share #12 Posted October 26, 2013 Question for you Rick. What kind of a relationship do you have with your ex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuzieQ Posted October 26, 2013 Share #13 Posted October 26, 2013 I know that if I asked my ex for money for something important he would definitely loan/give it to me, but I would never ask him for money for show game etc. if her family think it's important enough for her to be there then I'm sure they can get together and find some money for her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a bunch of numbers Posted October 26, 2013 Author Share #14 Posted October 26, 2013 Question for you Rick. What kind of a relationship do you have with your ex? It's strange I guess. I could write a page trying to describe it, but suffice it to say our relationship is good, we're friends. Not any closer than when we were together though, I liked being married to her. That is until she wigged out... But for things like issues when it comes to the kids, she doesn't try, nor ever did try to exclude me from that. I've helped her in the past knowing I'd never see the money. Bought her tickets so she could come up and spend the last day's with her father when he passed, among other things. And her family is great, I loved them. Her mother didn't talk to her for almost two years after she found out what she did to me. And Suzie, I don't think she would ask if she didn't really want to go and had any other options. She doesn't get to see her family that often. Her brothers are in Jersey, her moms in Buffalo, and she's in NC. I don't think her family knows the extent of her money situation or her brother would probably send her a ticket. He's pretty well off. I'll probably help her if she really wants to go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuzieQ Posted October 26, 2013 Share #15 Posted October 26, 2013 It's strange I guess. I could write a page trying to describe it, but suffice it to say our relationship is good, we're friends. Not any closer than when we were together though, I liked being married to her. That is until she wigged out... But for things like issues when it comes to the kids, she doesn't try, nor ever did try to exclude me from that. I've helped her in the past knowing I'd never see the money. Bought her tickets so she could come up and spend the last day's with her father when he passed, among other things. And her family is great, I loved them. Her mother didn't talk to her for almost two years after she found out what she did to me. And Suzie, I don't think she would ask if she didn't really want to go and had any other options. She doesn't get to see her family that often. Her brothers are in Jersey, her moms in Buffalo, and she's in NC. I don't think her family knows the extent of her money situation or her brother would probably send her a ticket. He's pretty well off. I'll probably help her if she really wants to go. The picture looks slightly different now.... I don't know the history between you, but if you have forgiven and both moved on, and you can afford to lose the cash, then it would be a nice gesture. I think when you have children it's good if you can keep the peace and be on good terms.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a bunch of numbers Posted October 26, 2013 Author Share #16 Posted October 26, 2013 Give her the $ unless it is any type of burden on your current family situation. You are still tied to her with history and it's the benevolent thing to do. PS. Please also send me 200.00. Thank you Sorry Cheesey.. budgets a bit tight lately. Otherwise I would. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirby Posted October 27, 2013 Share #17 Posted October 27, 2013 I probably wouldn't for something like a visit and football game, but it sounds like you have a good relationship and want to do it, in part for her family's sake, and I wouldn't feel guilty about doing it if you can afford to just give her the money and you have a good relationship now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted October 27, 2013 Share #18 Posted October 27, 2013 Based simply on what you've said here, and if it wouldn't put my family in a financial strain, I'd probably give her the money . But that's me. As I said earlier, don't be guilted either way. Go with your heart. Peace. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AirwickWithCheese Posted October 27, 2013 Share #19 Posted October 27, 2013 After reading your last reply, it's obvious you're going to give her the money. You're a good egg. Yay! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Road Runner Posted October 27, 2013 Share #20 Posted October 27, 2013 I wouldn't feel guilty if I gave her the money. But, in this particular situation, I probably would feel like a sucker and a fool for doing it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted October 27, 2013 Share #21 Posted October 27, 2013 Roadrunner, giving someone something, freely and after consideration, neither makes one a sucker nor a fool. Believing you're going to get something in return for it after time and experience have proven otherwise though, might. In Rick's case, he has no such misconceptions. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ernest T. Bass Posted October 27, 2013 Share #22 Posted October 27, 2013 For food, utilities, broke down car? Maybe. To see a football game with family? Not only no, but hell no. I would have been embarrassed to ask to borrow money for such a reason. it would seem her brothers could have chipped in the $200 if it is so important for her to be there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a bunch of numbers Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share #23 Posted October 27, 2013 I haven't heard back from her, so it may all be a moot point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris... Posted October 27, 2013 Share #24 Posted October 27, 2013 WWEPGD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randomguy Posted October 28, 2013 Share #25 Posted October 28, 2013 It's strange I guess. I could write a page trying to describe it, but suffice it to say our relationship is good, we're friends. Not any closer than when we were together though, I liked being married to her. That is until she wigged out... But for things like issues when it comes to the kids, she doesn't try, nor ever did try to exclude me from that. I've helped her in the past knowing I'd never see the money. Bought her tickets so she could come up and spend the last day's with her father when he passed, among other things. And her family is great, I loved them. Her mother didn't talk to her for almost two years after she found out what she did to me. And Suzie, I don't think she would ask if she didn't really want to go and had any other options. She doesn't get to see her family that often. Her brothers are in Jersey, her moms in Buffalo, and she's in NC. I don't think her family knows the extent of her money situation or her brother would probably send her a ticket. He's pretty well off. I'll probably help her if she really wants to go. This is indeed different information. However, she should have no pride with the wealthy brother, he may not notice the money, but you will if things are tight. So, tough situation. I don't think I would feel guilty if I decided not to send money, but I might feel I helped someone see her family and feel great for a little while if I did send it. I would prompt her to ask Richie Rich first while letting her know things are tight, and see what she says. An explanation as to why she won't ask him might help inform your position. How did she wig out? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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