Maybe host BBQ. When adult children refuse to vax so far

[shootingstar]

From somewhere in Toronto which could be somewhere for every forumite's region.  I didn't totally agree with the breezy solution but being with grandkids would be good for this chap.

 

[shootingstar]

Ok, this happened in my family when  in Toronto for 10 days this month?

Sister and hubby I stayed with:  my sister was not feeling well in latter part of wk. So she isolated for 2 days. Her hubby brought her cooked meals and left at bedroom door.  She just wanted make sure. She did test herself.  She works full-time at a major downtown Toronto hospital and does see patients as a hospital pharmacist.  She was worried it would kibosh our day trip to see a live musical in Niagara on the Lake. In the end, it was fine. We went and enjoyed ourselves. I can't even remember if we masked in theatre. 

Before all this, several family large gatherings at restaurants. Fine. (over 10+ people each time)

However when seeing my 88 yr. old mother, my doc-sister told me to mask. I seemed to forget half the time. And I didn't mask when I ate a lunch that mother prepped for me, as she talked to me.

[MickinMD ★]

I don't agree with the solution either.  Invite the grandkids but not their parents?  Even though the decision to not get vaxxed makes no sense to most of us and kills any chance of herd immunity, it must make sense to those who must realize they're much more likely to die with it, maybe fear due to all the lies we've had from Big Pharma over the years. There would be a lot of family problems due to such a situation.

[Airehead ★]

29 minutes ago, shootingstar said:

Ok, this happened in my family when  in Toronto for 10 days this month?

Sister and hubby I stayed with:  my sister was not feeling well in latter part of wk. So she isolated for 2 days. Her hubby brought her cooked meals and left at bedroom door.  She just wanted make sure. She did test herself.  She works full-time at a major downtown Toronto hospital and does see patients as a hospital pharmacist.  She was worried it would kibosh our day trip to see a live musical in Niagara on the Lake. In the end, it was fine. We went and enjoyed ourselves. I can't even remember if we masked in theatre. 

Before all this, several family large gatherings at restaurants. Fine. (over 10+ people each time)

However when seeing my 88 yr. old mother, my doc-sister told me to mask. I seemed to forget half the time. And I didn't mask when I ate a lunch that mother prepped for me, as she talked to me.

Please tell,us how it was seeing your mom and chatting. Should be it’s own thread. 

[shootingstar]

26 minutes ago, Airehead said:

Please tell,us how it was seeing your mom and chatting. Should be it’s own thread. 

Um...when one gets past...each visit, her lectures about eating well. My response:  Look at me, Mom. I'm ok for my age.  She talks about her health problems.  

It's kinda wearying, since it's for every adult child who she sees/talks to on phone. So siblings deal with this several times/wk. Phone calls in middle of night, etc. She doesn't consider that people have full-time jobs.

Anyway..... maybe it's because dearie's death, prompted her to think of her own mortality...she went into a friendly spin about division of stuff after she dies.  I only understood 70% of what she said in Chinese.

I did learn about my maternal great-grandfather who seemed entrepreneurial.  After he worked for several yrs. in U.S. in Chinese restaurants (probably in late 1800's onward), he returned to China to his family. Remember the immigration laws in U.S. and CAnada, were to keep out Chinese at that time in history...fear ove taking jobs, overrun with heathen Chinese, etc.

Over time, be bought/built 4 bldg. village properties.  One of them was a jewellery shop which eventually my grandfather took over.  There was a metal working shop but that didn't succeed.  The house was 2 bldgs. which were built to face a little courtyard. Let's not get too romantic....this is in farm country in China in early 1900's onward. Rough, not emperor's digs. Still ownership of multiple bldgs. indicates being slightly better.

My mother had some jade rings, etc. with unusual settings...anyway it's been divided up among siblings awhile ago. There's even a pr, of gold hair clips.. with floral design.  I didn't get anything, which I don't care because I'm not sure when I would even wear it.  (I've become slack wearing even my own jewellery since covid years.)

Only part of the saga. But now I know why mother really didn't want my father to smoke:  her own father enjoyed his cigarettes and later developed lung problems.

[shootingstar]

37 minutes ago, MickinMD said:

I don't agree with the solution either.  Invite the grandkids but not their parents?  Even though the decision to not get vaxxed makes no sense to most of us and kills any chance of herd immunity, it must make sense to those who must realize they're much more likely to die with it, maybe fear due to all the lies we've had from Big Pharma over the years. There would be a lot of family problems due to such a situation.

It's hard to know Mick. But it is surprising several of his adult children have not vaxxed. Not just 1.  It's so alien ... such a sharp contrast to my own family.  

When sister and her family visited me this summer, my 15 yr. niece got covid towards the end of trip. Doctor-mother had covid kit to test her. So of course they all had to mask, and she stayed for a good chunk with daughter on last day of trip in hotel rm. Yes, she would have boarded the plane, masked with covid. It is a domestic flight.  So this is what I mean, covid is still hanging around within our communities.

No, my doc-sis hasn't gotten covid so far...which is abit remarkable because she has seen covid patients.  She is quite consistent in masking. Her hubby (a postal truck driver) got covid this spring.

[Airehead ★]

19 minutes ago, shootingstar said:

Um...when one gets past...each visit, her lectures about eating well. My response:  Look at me, Mom. I'm ok for my age.  She talks about her health problems.  

It's kinda wearying, since it's for every adult child who she sees/talks to on phone. So siblings deal with this several times/wk. Phone calls in middle of night, etc. She doesn't consider that people have full-time jobs.

Anyway..... maybe it's because dearie's death, prompted her to think of her own mortality...she went into a friendly spin about division of stuff after she dies.  I only understood 70% of what she said in Chinese.

I did learn about my maternal great-grandfather who seemed entrepreneurial.  After he worked for several yrs. in U.S. in Chinese restaurants (probably in late 1800's onward), he returned to China to his family. Remember the immigration laws in U.S. and CAnada, were to keep out Chinese at that time in history...fear ove taking jobs, overrun with heathen Chinese, etc.

Over time, be bought/built 4 bldg. village properties.  One of them was a jewellery shop which eventually my grandfather took over.  There was a metal working shop but that didn't succeed.  The house was 2 bldgs. which were built to face a little courtyard. Let's not get too romantic....this is in farm country in China in early 1900's onward. Rough, not emperor's digs. Still ownership of multiple bldgs. indicates being slightly better.

My mother had some jade rings, etc. with unusual settings...anyway it's been divided up among siblings awhile ago. There's even a pr, of gold hair clips.. with floral design.  I didn't get anything, which I don't care because I'm not sure when I would even wear it.  (I've become slack wearing even my own jewellery since covid years.)

Only part of the saga. But now I know why mother really didn't want my father to smoke:  her own father enjoyed his cigarettes and later developed lung problems.

I still think you should write your moms story. 

[shootingstar]

16 minutes ago, Airehead said:

I still think you should write your moms story. 

It's a really tough story...Aire.  Isolation in a foreign country with no family in Canada for lst 20 years for her. Living in places ranging from 1,000 people to 30,000 and very few local Chinese outside of Toronto in 1950's -1960's. Her 3 sisters immigrated to San Franscisco at different times.

But she was incredibly lucky as a picture bride, to marry a kind husband.  She was told he was kinda of small-boned before she arrived in CAnada.  Which my father was.

We feel incredibly lucky... as their children. The marriage wasn't perfect, but for sure, it was a marriage where parents discussed topics calmly for ages and made decisions together, respected one another, which is what I associate with a marriage as the norm.