jsharr ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #1 Posted April 22, 2015 83 years old and suffered from dementia for years. She was living in a memory care facility and had her good and bad days. Today, she was being assisted to the bathroom and just slumped over, most likely a heart attack. Still in a bit of shock. Lots of friends over tonight to comfort my wife. Planning a funeral tomorrow. Keep us in your prayers. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rattlecan ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #2 Posted April 22, 2015 Deepest sympathy to you and your family. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilbur ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #3 Posted April 22, 2015 I am very sorry to hear this Jeff. Please express my condolences to your wife and family. I am sure the boys will support Mom. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allen ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #4 Posted April 22, 2015 Deepest condolences Martha, Jeff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #5 Posted April 22, 2015 So sorry...will say a prayer for all of you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AirwickWithCheese Posted April 22, 2015 Share #6 Posted April 22, 2015 I'm sorry Jsharr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddmaxx ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #7 Posted April 22, 2015 You and your family are in our thoughts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Wheels Posted April 22, 2015 Share #8 Posted April 22, 2015 Virtual hugs from me to you and your family, so sorry to hear this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parsnip Totin Jack ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #9 Posted April 22, 2015 Sorry to hear about your loss. It's never easy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrAzY Posted April 22, 2015 Share #10 Posted April 22, 2015 Sorry to hear about your loss... may you always have the fond memories that you have grown to know and cherish! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ernest T. Bass Posted April 22, 2015 Share #11 Posted April 22, 2015 I'm sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 22, 2015 Share #12 Posted April 22, 2015 Sorry to hear Jsharr. Prayers for you, Martha and family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
az_cyclist Posted April 22, 2015 Share #13 Posted April 22, 2015 Sorry to hear this jsharr. prayers for your wife and her family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Come Lately Name Posted April 22, 2015 Share #14 Posted April 22, 2015 Crap.....Sounds like she was "existing" not "living" though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirby Posted April 22, 2015 Share #15 Posted April 22, 2015 My condolences. Even when an elderly relative isn't well, it's still a shock. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kzoo Posted April 22, 2015 Share #16 Posted April 22, 2015 Condolences Jsharr. Sorry about your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Author Share #17 Posted April 22, 2015 Thanks All. FnROS summed it up. She was existing in a world that existed only in her mind. Fragments reality, based on the past. I think the biggest thing we are dealing wtih is the guilt of not being there with her, for her as much as we should have been in the recent past.That is going to be hard to deal with for Martha and this is her mother, her last tie to immediate family. Her dad is gone, her mother is gone, her brother though not gone has done some really crappy stuff and we do not have a relationship with him.Picking Martha up at 1:30 and meeting with the funeral director. Going to try and have the service on Saturday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrentonMakes Posted April 22, 2015 Share #18 Posted April 22, 2015 I'm so sorry, jsharr.When my grandmothers left us they were each in a similar mental state. I really do think they went to a better place and it sounds like your MiL did too. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rattlecan ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #19 Posted April 22, 2015 Thanks All. FnROS summed it up. She was existing in a world that existed only in her mind. Fragments reality, based on the past. I think the biggest thing we are dealing wtih is the guilt of not being there with her, for her as much as we should have been in the recent past.That is going to be hard to deal with for Martha and this is her mother, her last tie to immediate family. Her dad is gone, her mother is gone, her brother though not gone has done some really crappy stuff and we do not have a relationship with him.Picking Martha up at 1:30 and meeting with the funeral director. Going to try and have the service on Saturday. Thankfully, she has you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dottleshead ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #20 Posted April 22, 2015 Actually, the P&R just lost another regular to death as well. That's 3 over at that site -- including our beloved chopped liver -- who have fallen in a year's span. Will you people get your health shit together and quit dying? I'm starting to get attached to some of you bastahds in here and it's making it really tough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Silly Posted April 22, 2015 Share #21 Posted April 22, 2015 You, your wife and your family are in my heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UglyBob Posted April 22, 2015 Share #22 Posted April 22, 2015 So sorry. Prayers are with you and yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UglyBob Posted April 22, 2015 Share #23 Posted April 22, 2015 Actually, the P&R just lost another regular to death as well. That's 3 over at that site -- including our beloved chopped liver -- who have fallen in a year's span. Will you people get your health shit together and quit dying? I'm starting to get attached to some of you bastahds in here and it's making it really tough.Word. I lost 9 people in my orbit last year, including CL/Modo and stuckk... almost lost Bosox. I think we all need a break. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Longjohn ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #24 Posted April 22, 2015 Word. I lost 9 people in my orbit last year, including CL/Modo and stuckk... almost lost Bosox. I think we all need a break.Death is a part of life. After a full life death is to be expected but the person will still be missed. My father in law died last month, he was in his mid eighties. His mind wasn't as sharp as it had been, possibly because of the medications he was taking but he was still there and still knew us and told us how much he loved us and appreciated us. His passing was a promotion for him, he will be missed but he is in a better place. My kids and grandkids all came in for the funeral one of my sons had the funeral service and another one spoke at the service about his grandpa. It was the first time in my life I ever heard people at a funeral service applaud during the service.When younger people, who have not yet lived a full life die it's really sad but also something that sometimes happens. I'm sorry for your loss Jsharr but I'm sure you know your mother in law just got promoted. I'm praying for you and your family this week. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingtermite Posted April 22, 2015 Share #25 Posted April 22, 2015 Sounds similar to how my grandfather went. Sounds like it was relatively quick and painless, so that's a blessing. Deepest sympathies and well wishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dottleshead ★ Posted April 22, 2015 Share #26 Posted April 22, 2015 Word. I lost 9 people in my orbit last year, including CL/Modo and stuckk... almost lost Bosox. I think we all need a break.That's a lot to lose, Bob. We all know it's the cycle but the pure act is so unforgiving. Just gone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted April 24, 2015 Author Share #27 Posted April 24, 2015 So, plans all made. Service is at 9:30 AM at Restland in Dallas. Graveside only officiated by an old friend of the family who can both preach and sing. Mr. Hardin, my FIL had prepaid for ALL the expenses in advance for both he and Mrs. Hardin.It was almost fun to challenge and win the charges that the cemetery tried to tack on.Was told it would be extra for a Saturday funeral. "Can you show us that in the contract"? NOPE, charges removed.It will be $XXX.xx for opening / closing the grave. Again, can you show us, charges removedBill went from $1700 to $300, at which point the greasy salesman removed himself from the room and sent his assitant in to finish up. Could have maybe gotten the $200 for the installation of the burial vault removed as well, but at that point, just wanted to be done. Blood suckers that pray on you when you are hurting piss me off.Oh, and the most fun part was playing dumb when they asked if they could check on the ownership of the two plots between my wife's parents and grandparents. I knew they were ours, they didn't. Sure, see if they are available, we would LOVE to buy them..... Good news, they are yours, you just inherited them! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Wheels Posted April 24, 2015 Share #28 Posted April 24, 2015 Blood suckers that pray on you when you are hurting piss me off.I initially think good of all people, but then when I read things like this it makes me sad.I've thought of you and parr8 many times this week. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Airehead Posted April 25, 2015 Share #29 Posted April 25, 2015 I am sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeman564™ Posted April 25, 2015 Share #30 Posted April 25, 2015 Sorry for your loss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parr8hed Posted April 25, 2015 Share #31 Posted April 25, 2015 Sorry man, just now reading this. Been a little involved at my place as well. I hope everything went well. Will keep you in our prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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