TrentonMakes Posted August 24, 2017 Share #1 Posted August 24, 2017 Yesterday my father in law was found unresponsive at the bus stop in Gaithersburg, after suffering what appears to have been a major heart attack. He's in ICU basically on life support - his heart was stopped for far too long not to expect organ damage, probably major. He has a DNR, and my wife and her sisters are going to be dealing with some heavy stuff here. Right now I'm with the kids at his house in Frederick. I remember last fall being here knowing her mom wouldn't ever see the place again. I hate this feeling. As it happens, today is also my wife's birthday. thanks, friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2Far ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #2 Posted August 24, 2017 OOF. Thought & prayers headed your way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilbur ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #3 Posted August 24, 2017 Oh, so sorry TM. Best to you, your wife and her family and of course, her father. Tough times ahead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeman564™ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #4 Posted August 24, 2017 sent my friend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #5 Posted August 24, 2017 Praying for you and your extended family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddmaxx ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #6 Posted August 24, 2017 Sorry to hear this. Stick together and the family will get through this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisL Posted August 24, 2017 Share #7 Posted August 24, 2017 Oh man sorry to hear. Prayers & vibes coming your way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scrapr ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #8 Posted August 24, 2017 So sorry TM. Will be thinking of you & your family today Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kzoo Posted August 24, 2017 Share #9 Posted August 24, 2017 Sorry to hear this TM. Praying for your FIL and the family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffJim Posted August 24, 2017 Share #10 Posted August 24, 2017 Prayers sent for your family and FIL. Sorry to hear this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parsnip Totin Jack ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #11 Posted August 24, 2017 Sorry to hear this TM, we will keep you in thoughts and prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Wheels Posted August 24, 2017 Share #12 Posted August 24, 2017 So sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital_photog ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #13 Posted August 24, 2017 Praying for your family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #14 Posted August 24, 2017 Prayers going out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MickinMD ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #15 Posted August 24, 2017 Sending vibes and prayers your way from down in Anne Arundel County. These times are always tough. I took my mother had a DNR and the end played out long enough that we were at peace when it came. I hope your family is also able to deal with it ok if it comes to that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smudge ★ Posted August 24, 2017 Share #16 Posted August 24, 2017 Sorry about all that TM. Stuff like this is so very had on a family. Take care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrentonMakes Posted August 24, 2017 Author Share #17 Posted August 24, 2017 Thanks everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UglyBob Posted August 24, 2017 Share #18 Posted August 24, 2017 Prayers being sent. If you need anything, PM me. My BIL and his family live in Frederick. @Zealot isn't too far away either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirby Posted August 25, 2017 Share #19 Posted August 25, 2017 Prayers for your wife and all who love your FIL. I'm sure you'll be a good support to your wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randomguy Posted August 25, 2017 Share #20 Posted August 25, 2017 6 hours ago, TrentonMakes said: Thanks everyone. So sorry to hear this, TM. How is everyone holding up? Are you doing ok? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
groupw Posted August 25, 2017 Share #21 Posted August 25, 2017 Man that's rough! Positive vibes on the way! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrentonMakes Posted August 25, 2017 Author Share #22 Posted August 25, 2017 My FiL's condition hasn't really changed - he's still sedated and every time they try to roll that back he starts squirming as if he's uncomfortable - it's hard to see, but while he's sedated they really can't get a good read on things like brain function. His three daughters are together with him - they don't always get along, really, but at times like this they are completely unified. thanks again for your thoughts and prayers; they mean a lot. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted August 25, 2017 Share #23 Posted August 25, 2017 Sending you hugs and prayers...hang in there... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parsnip Totin Jack ★ Posted August 25, 2017 Share #24 Posted August 25, 2017 I'm in the neighborhood too if you need anything, grab a beer and unload sort of thing. I'm working Saturday at the LBS but we close at 6:00. Sunday is the Reston Century but afternoon/evening is free. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted August 25, 2017 Share #25 Posted August 25, 2017 Sorry - hang in there. I'd say have a beer with #7 if you can find some time. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrentonMakes Posted September 4, 2017 Author Share #26 Posted September 4, 2017 In the end the organ damage was too much (though this was no surprise). Jim stopped breathing and died peacefully yesterday afternoon. My wife asked me to be in the room with her as he passed - one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but it was an honor to be present, on both her behalf and his. He was a great man. Above all we are comforted to know that he and his beloved Joan are together again. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers and kind words. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Wheels Posted September 4, 2017 Share #27 Posted September 4, 2017 Very sorry for your families loss, you're a good man @TrentonMakes. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilbur ★ Posted September 4, 2017 Share #28 Posted September 4, 2017 3 minutes ago, TrentonMakes said: In the end the organ damage was too much (though this was no surprise). Jim stopped breathing and died peacefully yesterday afternoon. My wife asked me to be in the room with her as he passed - one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but it was an honor to be present, on both her behalf and his. He was a great man. Above all we are comforted to know that he and his beloved Joan are together again. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers and kind words. My heart just sunk for you and Mrs TM. Sorry for your loss. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parsnip Totin Jack ★ Posted September 4, 2017 Share #29 Posted September 4, 2017 Sorry for your family's loss TM. Peace be with you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AirwickWithCheese Posted September 4, 2017 Share #30 Posted September 4, 2017 Very sorry. You are a wonderful person. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted September 4, 2017 Share #31 Posted September 4, 2017 Sorry. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheep_herder ★ Posted September 4, 2017 Share #32 Posted September 4, 2017 Very sorry for your loss. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffJim Posted September 4, 2017 Share #33 Posted September 4, 2017 My condolences. Sorry about your loss. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted September 4, 2017 Share #34 Posted September 4, 2017 My thoughts and prayers are with you, TM. So sorry for your loss. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smudge ★ Posted September 4, 2017 Share #35 Posted September 4, 2017 It's still difficult even when we know the end is near. Sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted September 4, 2017 Share #36 Posted September 4, 2017 So sorry..wishing you all peace... I am thinking you are all exhausted..between the emotional stuff...and the hospital stuff...hope you can all rest once services and burial are over... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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