Airehead Posted March 4, 2018 Share #1 Posted March 4, 2018 I am not sure if I need drugs, counseling, or a new job but bloody durn mess it is getting to me. Young girl dies, sister diagnoses with same condition, credible bomb threat, state audit, and I just picked up a text that said a 20 year old passed quietly at home last night. He has been with us since he was 2. I have known him longer than many people. I haven't even been married that long. He was in school Thursday and we had the stupid snow day Friday. I am full or unfull. Nothing left to give. Now I am calling his past staff to let them know. We will meet Monday at 7:30 to laugh and cry. And I miss my momma. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootingstar Posted March 4, 2018 Share #2 Posted March 4, 2018 It's been tough on you airehead, one thing after another. Now go to bed with sleepy tea an hr. before. Does your employer provide staff with services as a benefit for debriefing/counselling support? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Airehead Posted March 4, 2018 Author Share #3 Posted March 4, 2018 Yes. We have a grief counselor on retainer. I had intended to talk with him when he came the day after the bomb incident. I gave my spot to a teacher who needed it more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddmaxx ★ Posted March 4, 2018 Share #4 Posted March 4, 2018 Don't forget to take a bit of time for yourself Aire. Those who provide so much for so many others must take care not to break down themselves. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Airehead Posted March 4, 2018 Author Share #5 Posted March 4, 2018 48 minutes ago, maddmaxx said: Don't forget to take a bit of time for yourself Aire. Those who provide so much for so many others must take care not to break down themselves. You are right. Not sure how to make it happen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffJim Posted March 4, 2018 Share #6 Posted March 4, 2018 We got your back!!! You probably can’t see how much leadership and strength you provide to your community. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddmaxx ★ Posted March 4, 2018 Share #7 Posted March 4, 2018 7 minutes ago, Airehead said: You are right. Not sure how to make it happen noli illegitimi carborundum. For those not blessed with a classical education this translates as "Don't let the bastards grind you down". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Page Turner Posted March 4, 2018 Share #8 Posted March 4, 2018 ...hey @Airehead, you probably don't want to hear this right now, so I won't dwell on it. But there are some jobs that have a limited useful life expectancy for the person doing them. I had two, and was lucky to get out healthy (relatively....except for my well known mental status issues. ) So you don't want to make that decision when you're down, discouraged, or feeling overwhelmed. But it's something to consider when things calm down a little. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted March 4, 2018 Share #9 Posted March 4, 2018 Sending you hugs.....you will miss your momma forever...so close your eyes and listen to her share her wisdom with you....She will help you get through those day to day struggles...ones that are more than enough one at a time....and yet you face them in multiples. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted March 4, 2018 Share #10 Posted March 4, 2018 12 hours ago, Airehead said: You are right. Not sure how to make it happen I am a professional slacker. I can give lots of tips. #1, embrace the spirit of Wally from Dilbert. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donkpow Posted March 4, 2018 Share #11 Posted March 4, 2018 https://www.cnn.com/2017/03/01/health/sad-clown-standup-comedy-mental-health/index.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoneWolf Posted March 4, 2018 Share #12 Posted March 4, 2018 17 hours ago, Airehead said: You are right. Not sure how to make it happen the only option is to "just make it happen". This is coming from someone who does a horrible job at just taking a vacation for himself because he can't figure out what he'd do, even if it's the right thing to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Randomguy Posted March 4, 2018 Popular Post Share #13 Posted March 4, 2018 18 hours ago, Airehead said: I am not sure if I need drugs, counseling, or a new job but bloody durn mess it is getting to me. Young girl dies, sister diagnoses with same condition, credible bomb threat, state audit, and I just picked up a text that said a 20 year old passed quietly at home last night. He has been with us since he was 2. I have known him longer than many people. I haven't even been married that long. He was in school Thursday and we had the stupid snow day Friday. I am full or unfull. Nothing left to give. Now I am calling his past staff to let them know. We will meet Monday at 7:30 to laugh and cry. And I miss my momma. Greeters at WalMart are happy folks, but aren't doing the important work that you are. Shit comes in spurts (especially if you ate produce that wasn't washed well), and you are handling it because you are much more able to handle it than most. The stuff you are doing might kill other's souls, you make the world a better place than it would be otherwise by doing what you do. Spring is coming soon, and everything seems brighter then. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Airehead Posted March 5, 2018 Author Share #14 Posted March 5, 2018 Thanks friends. Especially for the unwashed produce tip. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MickinMD ★ Posted March 5, 2018 Share #15 Posted March 5, 2018 On 3/3/2018 at 7:28 PM, Airehead said: I am not sure if I need drugs, counseling, or a new job but bloody durn mess it is getting to me. Young girl dies, sister diagnoses with same condition, credible bomb threat, state audit, and I just picked up a text that said a 20 year old passed quietly at home last night. He has been with us since he was 2. I have known him longer than many people. I haven't even been married that long. He was in school Thursday and we had the stupid snow day Friday. I am full or unfull. Nothing left to give. Now I am calling his past staff to let them know. We will meet Monday at 7:30 to laugh and cry. And I miss my momma. I went through similar school years and all I can say in encouragement is we lived through it, so hang in there. Summer will helpfully be a healing period and it's on the way. One year we had a 9th grader who was murdered in the woods she cut through on her way to school each day. The step-dad was in on the search and, within 15 minutes, "discovered" the body in an off-the-path part of the woods. Nothing was ever proven. The same year we had a suicide and some other troubling things. There was such a flood of students who needed to talk to counselors on several different troubling occasions that our countywide system of twelve high schools and feeder schools were sending counselors from the other schools to our high school for a few days each time. A former chemistry student of mine, Mollie - I had been her favorite teacher in our high school, had become a guidance counselor at one of the other schools and she stopped by to talk to me many times that school year because she was temporarily assigned to our building so often to help handle the flood of upset kids. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jsharr ★ Posted March 5, 2018 Popular Post Share #16 Posted March 5, 2018 Not sure I can say it was well as RG, or others,but I will give it a shot (unintended unwashed veggies pun). What you do matters. You inspire and lead your team well. And they in turn work to raise up and educate our next generation. You lead by example of selflessness and grace from what I have seen. You show those within your sphere of influence what a servant leader looks like. I also think there are forces at work that attack and try to stamp out goodness and light in our world. Do not let your light go out. It may dim from time to time. Take some time to refill your lamp to insure this does not happen. Seek out the counsel of wise friends. Unburden yourself on a caring shoulder, of which there are many around you, just as others seek your counsel and unburden themselves on you. Be glad that others see you as the one to turn too when things are dark, as their source of light. Last night I got to see this in action when my son got a text from a school friend saying his mother had stopped breathing and may be dying. Wade asked us what to do and we got in contact with the school principal and others and within a short period of time, Wade and my wife and the prinicpal were on the way to the students house to offer comfort and support. CPR was administered and the mother was taken to the hospital where she was responsive. No word yet on what caused her to stop breathing. After Wade got home, I told him how proud I was that he reacted the way he did, by calling and texting his friend, by calling the counselor at the school and seeking advice and then by taking that advice and acting. He told me it was hard and he was scared and it was not what he wanted to do, but he did it. This is what you do. You do the hard things, the things that others are scared to do, even thought you may be scared, or tired, you do it. Thank you. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirby Posted March 5, 2018 Share #17 Posted March 5, 2018 Oh Aire. I'm afraid I can't say it as well as the others in this thread, but I'm sorry you're going through this. The work you do means it's more likely you're going to face heartbreaking life and death situations. And things always seem more tragic when they happen to young people. The problem is when you're in the middle of the situation, you often dealing with the next emergency and don't have a chance to look at the bigger picture and see how important it is for you to take care of yourself. I'm not sure what that means for you, what things relax you, bring you peace and raise your spirits. Whatever it is, you have to take some time to do it. Even if you disappoint someone now by not being available, you'll disappoint fewer people in the long run if you've had some chance for a break so that you can recharge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reverend_Maynard Posted March 5, 2018 Share #18 Posted March 5, 2018 Don't forget to keep in mind that the work you do every day, that may just seem like routine to you, is like a miracle for so many of those you work with and for. You may hardly acknowledge it anymore, being so close to it and doing it everyday, but imagine what life might be like for some of your charges if not for you and those like you! You're making a difference in so many lives, these events that seem so major when they happen are really just minor speed bumps along the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donkpow Posted March 5, 2018 Share #19 Posted March 5, 2018 I don't know how well these comments will be received but I'll toss them out anyway. People who can react well in a crisis should be admired. So much of their person is subjugated in order to act for the greater good. Training to operate under duress can bring most of us into service at critical times. Still, a strong personal belief system, perhaps value based, can let us accomplish great things as well as help with recovery. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Airehead Posted March 6, 2018 Author Share #20 Posted March 6, 2018 Thank you all for giving me many serious things to think about, comfort, support, and unwashed vegetables. I mean it when I say that there are good people here. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pedalphile Posted March 6, 2018 Share #21 Posted March 6, 2018 Bloody hell, Aire. I'd say you could never be too whiny in the circumstances. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12string Posted March 6, 2018 Share #22 Posted March 6, 2018 This wasn't whiny or self centered. Prayers for you. Now, plan a short vacation. Soon. Just do it. They will get by without you for a couple days. Much better than if they have to get by without for a longer time if you don't take care of yourself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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