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Last night when I picked him up from work, my oldest told me he had a girlfriend ( a first as far as I know) and he had asked her out to dinner.   He has only been on one "date" in his life.  His freshman year he took a girl to the JROTC Ball and she ended up dancing with some other guy.
Now this morning he tells me that the girl he asked out has called it off!  ?  

This makes me hurt inside for my son.  Don't really know what to say.  His only response was "It is no big deal" but that is his way of dealing with stuff like this.  He acts like nothing matters.  The more nonchalant he is, the more I know he is hurt or upset.

 

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I'm sorry he's hurting.  It was hard enough to navigate those waters myself, the heartless things kids do (I'm guilty of a few).

Our daughter is almost 16..... I know we're going to be helping her through similar times soon.  It's all experience that helps going forward, I guess.

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2 hours ago, jsharr said:

Last night when I picked him up from work, my oldest told me he had a girlfriend ( a first as far as I know) and he had asked her out to dinner.   He has only been on one "date" in his life.  His freshman year he took a girl to the JROTC Ball and she ended up dancing with some other guy.
Now this morning he tells me that the girl he asked out has called it off!  ?  

This makes me hurt inside for my son.  Don't really know what to say.  His only response was "It is no big deal" but that is his way of dealing with stuff like this.  He acts like nothing matters.  The more nonchalant he is, the more I know he is hurt or upset.

 

I was in college at a dance, and one of the UMBC security personnel - a retired Baltimore City Policemen who was funny, looked the other way for minor stuff, and was popular with the students came in to watch the band.  I was standing on the side, watching the band.  The guard - who knew me because I had a key to the chemistry-physics building and worked in a lab there - walked up and asked, "No date?"

I pointed to my date dancing with a friend and said something like, "I hope she saves the last dance for me."

So he told me this story.  When he was a Baltimore City Policeman, he was assigned to a dance held in on a city property.  One guy would dance with a girl, whisper something in her ear and she'd slap him in the face and walk away.  This happened several times, so the cop asked the guy what he was saying to the girls.  He replied, "I ask them if they want to have sex."

The cop said, "You sure get slapped a lot," and the guy replied, "Yeah, but not every time!"

I learned a good lesson from that story!

Tell your son to ask out another one.

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10 hours ago, jsharr said:

Last night when I picked him up from work, my oldest told me he had a girlfriend ( a first as far as I know) and he had asked her out to dinner.   He has only been on one "date" in his life.  His freshman year he took a girl to the JROTC Ball and she ended up dancing with some other guy.
Now this morning he tells me that the girl he asked out has called it off!  ?  

This makes me hurt inside for my son.  Don't really know what to say.  His only response was "It is no big deal" but that is his way of dealing with stuff like this.  He acts like nothing matters.  The more nonchalant he is, the more I know he is hurt or upset.

 

I'm sorry to hear. You're being a good father. The girl who danced with another guy, has not been taught good manners/empathy at all.

Hope he has some good female friends to hang out with...it takes awhile to understand how some girls are like...personality-wise.  Also some girls like some guys, don't quite see sometimes the nicest, are the ones who tend to be quiet yet thoughtful, can be the best for a long time.

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Jsharr Jr. is a nice looking young man and seems to be getting even better as he ages. May Uncle Cheese offer some advice? 

At university, tell W to join groups like young republicans, yearbook club, pep squad, etc. Look for the groups where the conservative skirts and modest blouses are in greatest quantities. 

These young ladies are very pretty but may not be on varsity cheerleader level. However, as you well know as his father, most of these young ladies will be the debutantes of Dallas society and the office managers for their father's car dealerships or oil refineries. 

I could use a job. 

Cheese

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12 hours ago, jsharr said:

Last night when I picked him up from work, my oldest told me he had a girlfriend ( a first as far as I know) and he had asked her out to dinner.   He has only been on one "date" in his life.  His freshman year he took a girl to the JROTC Ball and she ended up dancing with some other guy.
Now this morning he tells me that the girl he asked out has called it off!  ?  

This makes me hurt inside for my son.  Don't really know what to say.  His only response was "It is no big deal" but that is his way of dealing with stuff like this.  He acts like nothing matters.  The more nonchalant he is, the more I know he is hurt or upset.

 

Young chicks have to learn how to find the good in people, and it takes time if they don't fit a certain mold or perception.  Young dudes clearly suffer from the same problem.

Heavy commercialism has taught us to want, not to appreciate.  

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1 hour ago, shootingstar said:

I'm sorry to hear. You're being a good father. The girl who danced with another guy, has not been taught good manners/empathy at all.

Hope he has some good female friends to hang out with...it takes awhile to understand how some girls are like...personality-wise.  Also some girls like some guys, don't quite see sometimes the nicest, are the ones who tend to be quiet yet thoughtful, can be the best for a long time.

Thank you

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1 minute ago, Randomguy said:

Young chicks have to learn how to find the good in people, and it takes time if they don't fit a certain mold or perception.  Young dudes clearly suffer from the same problem.

Heavy commercialism has taught us to want, not to appreciate.  

Do you want a job at my car dealership?

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