Dirtyhip Posted September 14, 2019 Share #1 Posted September 14, 2019 They are cruel. Some people like to say rude things to you, in an effort to tear you down and in the process feel superior to you. I got a PM yesterday from a past FB friend (who I removed). It was a pm that had a thin veil of "concern" about my ankle and health, while in the process bragging upon themselves and their bike accomplishments while tearing me down in the process. I handled it with grace and dignity. One short sentence, that had no ill words in it. Like. "Thanks. Glad you are having a good summer." She basically stalked my strava times (She is no longer my follower..I removed her), compared them to hers, then she stalked my facebook to send me a message. Psycho! The funny thing is that half of the things she said about me were untrue. My husband and I definitely still spend all of our time together on our bikes. While I have slowed down and I am not really racing on strava clock, I am no slouch. Really, I think she needs a good punch in the face. What this makes me want to do is just get really strong again and prove her mouth wrong. She is a big loud mouthed braggart and loves to talk shit about everyone and everything. If I were a fly on the wall, she is now talking much about me. Why do people do this? Women, men and hornets can be very mean. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootingstar Posted September 14, 2019 Share #2 Posted September 14, 2019 4 minutes ago, Dirtyhip said: They are cruel. Some people like to say rude things to you, in an effort to tear you down and in the process feel superior to you. I got a PM yesterday from a past FB friend (who I removed). It was a pm that had a thin veil of "concern" about my ankle and health, while in the process bragging upon themselves and their bike accomplishments while tearing me down in the process. I handled it with grace and dignity. One short sentence, that had no ill words in it. Like. "Thanks. Glad you are having a good summer." She basically stalked my strava times (She is no longer my follower..I removed her), compared them to hers, then she stalked my facebook to send me a message. Psycho! The funny thing is that half of the things she said about me were untrue. My husband and I definitely still spend all of our time together on our bikes. While I have slowed down and I am not really racing on strava clock, I am no slouch. Really, I think she needs a good punch in the face. What this makes me want to do is just get really strong again and prove her mouth wrong. She is a big loud mouthed braggart and loves to talk shit about everyone and everything. If I were a fly on the wall, she is now talking much about me. Why do people do this? Women can be very mean. Some men are also mean ….but may have different styles /tactics. Sorry this happened. Honest, Dirtyhip I may have less friends than someone like you but I'd rather not try to be friendly with people who I can't totally rely on keeping their mouth shut. She sounds like someone whon you've known all along she was personality-wise like this. I just avoid people like that. life is short and one needs to direct their energy better with others who are more supportive long-term. The older one gets, the more important this becomes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted September 14, 2019 Share #3 Posted September 14, 2019 8 minutes ago, Dirtyhip said: Women can be very mean. People can be very mean....jealousy Sometimes you are better off just walking away from some folks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted September 14, 2019 Author Share #4 Posted September 14, 2019 6 minutes ago, shootingstar said: Some men are also mean ….but may have different styles /tactics. Sorry this happened. Honest, Dirtyhip I may have less friends than someone like you but I'd rather not try to be friendly with people who I can't totally rely on keeping their mouth shut. She sounds like someone whon you've known all along she was personality-wise like this. I just avoid people like that. life is short and one needs to direct their energy better with others who are more supportive long-term. The older one gets, the more important this becomes. I do try and ignore her. I removed her from all social media. I avoid her locally. She sent me an unsolicited text on FB. She is now blocked. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted September 14, 2019 Author Share #5 Posted September 14, 2019 6 minutes ago, petitepedal said: People can be very mean....jealousy Sometimes you are better off just walking away from some folks! Oh I have. So many things I could have said, instead of my benign short reply. I wanted to call her out. Point out that half of what she said is wrong. I chose the high road. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisL Posted September 14, 2019 Share #6 Posted September 14, 2019 Yeah that sucks. My bitch sister is like that, she’ll say things where you think, do you try to be a bitch or does it just come out naturally... Do you really care or are you looking for an opening to attack me? It pisses us off, I get it but try to put her behind you & move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted September 14, 2019 Author Share #7 Posted September 14, 2019 7 minutes ago, ChrisL said: Yeah that sucks. My bitch sister is like that, she’ll say things where you think, do you try to be a bitch or does it just come out naturally... Do you really care or are you looking for an opening to attack me? It pisses us off, I get it but try to put her behind you & move on. Just venting. Venting is better than punching her in the face, next time we cross paths. 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted September 14, 2019 Share #8 Posted September 14, 2019 Here is a pretty good place to vent too...cos...we are all skeered of your awesome bike skills and we would never try to beat you up... 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted September 14, 2019 Author Share #9 Posted September 14, 2019 1 minute ago, petitepedal said: Here is a pretty good place to vent too...cos...we are all skeered of your awesome bike skills and we would never try to beat you up... LOL. The thing about this gal is that she is only judging me on my uphill right now. I slay her on the DH, even with a gimpy foot...which is getting better, BTW. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddmaxx ★ Posted September 14, 2019 Share #10 Posted September 14, 2019 10 minutes ago, petitepedal said: Here is a pretty good place to vent too...cos...we are all skeered of your awesome bike skills and we would never try to beat you up... Have you ever tried to beat someone up who was glaring at you from inside a full face helmet? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoseySusan Posted September 14, 2019 Share #11 Posted September 14, 2019 Stay on the high road, friend. Your desire to slay her lying mouth will taint your joy in the ride. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted September 14, 2019 Share #12 Posted September 14, 2019 ? Sorry that you are having to deal with such, DH. Yes, people can be mean. I am proud of you for taking the higher road in your response to her. Trust me, I know that isn’t always easy. To me, that speaks volumes of your character. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Wheels Posted September 14, 2019 Share #13 Posted September 14, 2019 She does not like herself, and she's trying to drag you down with her. Been there, done that. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team scooter Posted September 14, 2019 Share #14 Posted September 14, 2019 Yes there are toxic people. Some don't do it on purpose, but some do. I grew up surrounded by them so I learned what makes them tick. They befriend, learn weaknesses, then use them. Most I've encountered are usually insecure about something.... Of the six toxic people at the place I started working a few years ago, only one (the worst) is left standing. And the one left, (the manager) is miserable, stressed out and now ill. You can ignore/avoid toxic people, let them get to you, or..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Further Posted September 14, 2019 Share #15 Posted September 14, 2019 Just say "You're Right" "Bless Your Heart" 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirby Posted September 15, 2019 Share #16 Posted September 15, 2019 Some people just don't know how to be happy and content, and they figure they will feel good if they can feel "better" than someone else. But that's a guaranteed way to not be happy since there will always be someone who is, or has, more than you in some fashion or another. It's a shame you aren't Southern and can't respond with their traditional (and sweetly sarcastic) "Bless your heart". 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Further Posted September 15, 2019 Share #17 Posted September 15, 2019 The mean ones make the nice ones just that much better And there are some nice people out there 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted September 15, 2019 Author Share #18 Posted September 15, 2019 I am still in shock that she actually did this to me. She tried to humiliate me. Yoga is helping me heal. Bless her heart. Namaste. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted September 15, 2019 Share #19 Posted September 15, 2019 DH, the only thing that can truly hurt you, is what you give that power to. What we think of ourselves and the standard to which we hold ourselves are what truly matters. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted September 15, 2019 Share #20 Posted September 15, 2019 What the 4 hours ago, Dirtyhip said: I am still in shock that she actually did this to me. She tried to humiliate me. Yoga is helping me heal. Bless her heart. Namaste. What the hell us wrong with people? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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