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Dirtyhip

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They are cruel.  Some people like to say rude things to you, in an effort to tear you down and in the process feel superior to you.

I got a PM yesterday from a past FB friend (who I removed).  It was a pm that had a thin veil of "concern" about my ankle and health, while in the process bragging upon themselves and their bike accomplishments while tearing me down in the process.  I handled it with grace and dignity.  One short sentence, that had no ill words in it. Like.  "Thanks.  Glad you are having a good summer."  She basically stalked my strava times (She is no longer my follower..I removed her), compared them to hers, then she stalked my facebook to send me a message.  Psycho!

The funny thing is that half of the things she said about me were untrue.  My husband and I definitely still spend all of our time together on our bikes. While I have slowed down and I am not really racing on strava clock, I am no slouch.  

Really, I think she needs a good punch in the face. 

What this makes me want to do is just get really strong again and prove her mouth wrong.  She is a big loud mouthed braggart and loves to talk shit about everyone and everything.  If I were a fly on the wall, she is now talking much about me.  

Why do people do this?

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Women, men and hornets can be very mean.

 

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4 minutes ago, Dirtyhip said:

They are cruel.  Some people like to say rude things to you, in an effort to tear you down and in the process feel superior to you.

I got a PM yesterday from a past FB friend (who I removed).  It was a pm that had a thin veil of "concern" about my ankle and health, while in the process bragging upon themselves and their bike accomplishments while tearing me down in the process.  I handled it with grace and dignity.  One short sentence, that had no ill words in it. Like.  "Thanks.  Glad you are having a good summer."  She basically stalked my strava times (She is no longer my follower..I removed her), compared them to hers, then she stalked my facebook to send me a message.  Psycho!

The funny thing is that half of the things she said about me were untrue.  My husband and I definitely still spend all of our time together on our bikes. While I have slowed down and I am not really racing on strava clock, I am no slouch.  

Really, I think she needs a good punch in the face. 

What this makes me want to do is just get really strong again and prove her mouth wrong.  She is a big loud mouthed braggart and loves to talk shit about everyone and everything.  If I were a fly on the wall, she is now talking much about me.  

Why do people do this?

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Women can be very mean.

 

Some men are also mean ….but may have different styles /tactics.

Sorry this happened. Honest, Dirtyhip I may have less friends than someone like you but I'd rather not try to be friendly with people who I can't totally rely on keeping their mouth shut.  She sounds like someone whon you've known all along she was personality-wise like this.

I just avoid people like that.  life is short and one needs to direct their energy better with others who are more supportive long-term.  The older one gets, the more important this becomes.

 

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6 minutes ago, shootingstar said:

Some men are also mean ….but may have different styles /tactics.

Sorry this happened. Honest, Dirtyhip I may have less friends than someone like you but I'd rather not try to be friendly with people who I can't totally rely on keeping their mouth shut.  She sounds like someone whon you've known all along she was personality-wise like this.

I just avoid people like that.  life is short and one needs to direct their energy better with others who are more supportive long-term.  The older one gets, the more important this becomes.

 

I do try and ignore her.  I removed her from all social media.  I avoid her locally.  She sent me an unsolicited text on FB.  

She is now blocked. 

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6 minutes ago, petitepedal said:

People can be very mean....jealousy   Sometimes you are better off just walking away from some folks!

Oh I have.  

So many things I could have said, instead of my benign short reply.  

I wanted to call her out.  Point out that half of what she said is wrong. I chose the high road.

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Yeah that sucks.  My bitch sister is like that, she’ll say things where you think, do you try to be a bitch or does it just come out naturally...  Do you really care or are you looking for an opening to attack me?

It pisses us off, I get it but try to put her behind you & move on.

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7 minutes ago, ChrisL said:

Yeah that sucks.  My bitch sister is like that, she’ll say things where you think, do you try to be a bitch or does it just come out naturally...  Do you really care or are you looking for an opening to attack me?

It pisses us off, I get it but try to put her behind you & move on.

Just venting.  Venting is better than punching her in the face, next time we cross paths.

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1 minute ago, petitepedal said:

Here is a pretty good place to vent too...cos...we are all skeered of your awesome bike skills and we would never try to beat you up...:D

LOL.  

The thing about this gal is that she is only judging me on my uphill right now.  I slay her on the DH, even with a gimpy foot...which is getting better, BTW.

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Yes there are toxic people. Some don't do it on purpose, but some do. I grew up surrounded by them so I learned what makes them tick. They befriend, learn weaknesses, then use them. Most I've encountered are usually insecure about something....  Of the six toxic people at the place I started working a few years ago, only one (the worst) is left standing. And the one left, (the manager) is miserable, stressed out and now ill. You can ignore/avoid toxic people, let them get to you, or..... ;)

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Some people just don't know how to be happy and content, and they figure they will feel good if they can feel "better" than someone else.  But that's a guaranteed way to not be happy since there will always be someone who is, or has, more than you in some fashion or another.

It's a shame you aren't Southern and can't respond with their traditional (and sweetly sarcastic) "Bless your heart".

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