I am out of patience and good will

[Airehead]

And the next health care professional that suggests I move out for Tim’s sake is going to get a piece of my sleep deprived mind. How about a plan that considers us both as a member of the family and we work out a plan that works for both of us. 

[Airehead]

And this is why it is good he doesn’t post here. 

[Razors Edge]

Just now, Airehead said:

And the next health care professional that suggests I move out for Tim’s sake is going to get a piece of my sleep deprived mind. How about a plan that considers us both as a member of the family and we work out a plan that works for both of us. 

Can you move out? Would it mean a hotel stay? What about the dogs? Who is caring for Tim?

[Dirtyhip]

I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. 

Pretty crazy to only consider the happiness of one and not the other.

[Razors Edge]

Just now, Dirtyhip said:

I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. 

Pretty crazy to only consider the happiness of one and not the other.

I'd agree if that were the big picture (and still agree folks ought to be more aware of what they are saying), but I'm pretty sure Airehead want's the same thing - a fully recovered spouse - and having the flu nearby can't be a risk worth taking IF there are reasonable alternatives.  Clearly, this is a tough situation all around

[2Far]

I mean, shit, you got like 10,000 SF house. Isn't 5,000 SF a piece enough room?

[Ralphie]

This is where a she shed would come in handy!

[2Far]

5 minutes ago, RalphWaldoMooseworth said:

This is where a she shed would come in handy!

 

6 minutes ago, 2Far said:

I mean, shit, you got like 10,000 SF house. Isn't 5,000 SF a piece enough room?

She has one, Einstein needs to be sleeping with the dogs.

[jsharr]

Sorry.  I will not crack wise here, as I can feel you frustration.  Hope things improve soon for everyone.

[Dirtyhip]

We have no sanctuary in our home, when one is sick.  We have one bed.  

Not sure how other couples deal with things like this.  Our home is too modest for things like separate sleeping rooms. 

[jsharr]

3 minutes ago, Dirtyhip said:

We have no sanctuary in our home, when one is sick.  We have one bed.  

Not sure how other couples deal with things like this.  Our home is too modest for things like separate sleeping rooms. 

If my wife is sick, I give her the bedroom and I sleep on the couch in the den.  

[Wilbur]

Just now, jsharr said:

If my wife is sick, I give her the bedroom and I sleep on the couch in my office.  

This

[Dottleshead]

Get on the @smudge phone and rapidly deploy a she shed

[jsharr]

1 minute ago, Wilbur said:

This

I do not have a couch in my office at work and I do not have an office in my modest working class home.

[Airehead]

44 minutes ago, Razors Edge said:

Can you move out? Would it mean a hotel stay? What about the dogs? Who is caring for Tim?

He could go to cardiac rehab. Otherwise nothing makes sense since he cannot drive or change the bandage without help.  I could go to a hotel but then I am in an unfamiliar place with a 102 temp and no easy source for drinks or food other than getting up or venturing out.  With both at home, we only  have to impose on one friend not two.  I certainly would not take these germs to a friend’s house. That would be pretty inconsiderate of me. 

He feels well enough to take care of the dogs and we  have our friend Liz to help with them and him. I am staying in the bedroom away from all of them. If I need something I wear a mask and gloves to get it. Like tea or crackers. 
 

And bottom line I sat in the hospital for 8 days with him. We were both exposed to the same cess pool of germs. He may get the flu but that doesn’t mean it is from me. 
 

I am tired of righteous medical folk given lofty opinions with no practical solutions. 

[jsharr]

6 minutes ago, Dottles said:

Get on the @smudge phone and rapidly deploy a she shed

[Wilbur]

12 minutes ago, Airehead said:

I am tired of righteous medical folk given lofty opinions with no practical solutions. 

I know how you feel, Aire.  It is frustrating x10 when you are sick as well.  I still can't figure out why they share all info on me with my daughter if I am the one in hospital but gawd forbid I try to talk to a doctor or nurse when she is.  

[Airehead]

And frankly, I just plan don’t like this daily Lpn who comes to the house. She is a bitch. I wish we had a good home health nurse like wife of @Parr8hed

[Dirtyhip]

My husband didn’t move out into the couch and he never got sick. Was he patient zero? Is it him that made me sick? 🤣 

[UglyBob]

Wish I lived closer. I'd park the motorhome next to the dog building and take care of both of you.

[jsharr]

9 minutes ago, Dirtyhip said:

My husband didn’t move out into the couch and he never got sick. Was he patient zero? Is it him that made me sick? 🤣 

I move out of selfishness, not selflessness.  I am a very light sleeper and seldom get a full nights sleep.  If my wife is sneezing and coughing and snoring due to congestion, I do not get much sleep, so I move.

She is more prone to getting sick during allergy season in Texas.  Allergies turn into sinus infections and she works at a K-12 school, so she is constantly exposed to all kinds of stuff.

I work in an office with 5 total people, less on many days, and I have my own office that I spend most of my time in.

[maddmaxx]

10 minutes ago, jsharr said:

I move out of selfishness, not selflessness.  I am a very light sleeper and seldom get a full nights sleep.  If my wife is sneezing and coughing and snoring due to congestion, I do not get much sleep, so I move.

She is more prone to getting sick during allergy season in Texas.  Allergies turn into sinus infections and she works at a K-12 school, so she is constantly exposed to all kinds of stuff.

I work in an office with 5 total people, less on many days, and I have my own office that I spend most of my time in.

And brings it home.

I know this person/persons.

[Airehead]

29 minutes ago, UglyBob said:

Wish I lived closer. I'd park the motorhome next to the dog building and take care of both of you.

Thank you. 
 

I took a shower and my good mood has mostly been refreshed. 

[Zealot]

Wow, @Airehead. I am so sorry you’re dealing with all this. 😞

Keep strong. It will pass.  Medical folks are simply doing (saying) what their profession requires them to.  Annoying, yes. And I am sorry. In the long run, what you and your spouse do is up to you. 

Mrs Z and I would stay close to each other. 

[Square Wheels]

4 hours ago, Dirtyhip said:

We have no sanctuary in our home, when one is sick.  We have one bed.  

Not sure how other couples deal with things like this.  Our home is too modest for things like separate sleeping rooms. 

We have a few extra bedrooms.  When one of gets sick, we sleep next to that person.  I've never slept in another room in this house in the 13 years we've been here.

[Page Turner]

2 hours ago, Airehead said:

Thank you. 
 

I took a shower and my good mood has mostly been refreshed. 

....I used to have a speed bag out in the garage back when I worked and needed to vent.

 

[Airehead]

27 minutes ago, Square Wheels said:

We have a few extra bedrooms.  When one of gets sick, we sleep next to that person.  I've never slept in another room in this house in the 13 years we've been here.

Typically this would be true but because of the heart repair, the mazing still healing and the collapsed lung, I believe reasonable precautions are merited. Moving alone to a hotel is not reasonable. 

[MoseySusan]

It sounds like friends are there to help, you're gloving up, and spouse is resting as needed. Taking care. 

[maddmaxx]

9 hours ago, Page Turner said:

....I used to have a speed bag out in the garage back when I worked and needed to vent.

 

I'm a bit concerned about you and your speed bags.  What's the guys name who lives out back.

[smudge]

14 hours ago, Airehead said:

And frankly, I just plan don’t like this daily Lpn who comes to the house. She is a bitch. I wish we had a good home health nurse like wife of @Parr8hed

You should request a different person.

Take care.

[Square Wheels]

12 hours ago, Airehead said:

Typically this would be true but because of the heart repair, the mazing still healing and the collapsed lung, I believe reasonable precautions are merited. Moving alone to a hotel is not reasonable. 

I agree.  It's usually been a healthy person sleeping next to a sick person, not a sick person sleeping next to someone who had heart surgery.