Popular Post LoneWolf Posted November 25, 2020 Popular Post Share #1 Posted November 25, 2020 Today was thirty days without WoLW. And tomorrow is her birthday. For the most part, I've got all four wheels on the ground. I'm probably eating like garbage. But, I'm on top of everything financially. I've got many of the loose ends sewn together, and generally the most important ones. Note: In this day and age of millennials and Gen-Zers, any name can be any gender, so closing credit cards over the phone is a heck of a lot easier if "you're the deceased" and have all of their information (so you don't have to deal with paperwork). Also note: If you ever have to do this, become very knowledgeable about HIPAA, because in the absence of knowledge, entities you have to deal with will substitute their own brand of CYA, and you'll need to trump that with chapter and verse. And as lousy as this sounds, know when to talk about your spouse having passed and not when it comes to the logistics side, because sometimes one option is better than the other, and you have to get everything together, because it's not just going to rearrange itself in tidy order for you. I have the occasional off time; tomorrow will likely be an off day. That's actually unusual, my off times are usually half an hour here or an hour there. There is sadness, but there isn't depression (having fought that beast much of my life, I know the difference). I am deeply grateful for having the best workplace I've had in a 25-year career, people who have gone above and beyond for me. I'm grateful for a good church. I'm grateful for friends, even though COVID is making that part tougher, and I'm grateful for three cats who provide some good companionship. Most of all, I'm grateful that she's healed and whole -and I hope she's not worrying about me and instead getting the time to have the best life she'll ever have. This old wolf will manage, in between feeding a horde of yowling cats, doing dishes or laundry, making a grocery run, or reading/typing something out on the bed surrounded by the furballs. Yeah, I totally miss her at times. I have a cry here and there. But my greatest portion of grief was spent when there was still a fight to be had. The war is over; it's time to work on the peace. 3 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeman564™ Posted November 25, 2020 Share #2 Posted November 25, 2020 prayers & vibes to get you thru this 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zealot Posted November 25, 2020 Share #3 Posted November 25, 2020 My heart goes out to you, LW. 😔 And my previous offer still stands. There is healing and peace in the journey and the remembrance. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zephyr Posted November 25, 2020 Share #4 Posted November 25, 2020 You are a special person, Lone Wolf. Prayers of peace for you J 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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