A Wife Recommendation (or two)

[jsharr ★]

7 Tips for Keeping Your Man (from the 1950s)

 

 

Disturbing advice from the mid-20th century. It’s about to get real.

1. Don't Talk

Oh, did Mavis from next door insult your prize winning squash? Did little Timmy get sent home for starting fires again? That shooting pain in your left arm just keeps getting more intense? Keep it to yourself! Your man works all through his day and the last thing he needs to hear about is yours.  Refer to  the first four commandments on “How to be a Good Wife” Edward Podolsky gives in his 1943 book, Sex Today in Wedded Life:

Don’t bother your husband with petty troubles and complaints when he comes home from work.

Be a good listener. Let him tell you his troubles; yours will seem trivial in comparison.

Remember your most important job is to build up and maintain his ego (which gets bruised plenty in business). Morale is a woman’s business.

Let him relax before dinner. Discuss family problems after the inner man has been satisfied.

In his 1951 book, Sex Satisfaction and Happy Marriage, Reverend Alfred Henry Tyrer has more to add to that. Do not ask for things. This is called "nagging":

I verily believe that the happiness of homes is destroyed more frequently by the habit of nagging than by any other one. A man may stand that sort of thing (nagging) for a long time, but the chances are against his standing it permanently. If he needs peace to make life bearable, he will have to look for it elsewhere than in his own house. And it is quite likely that he will look.

Unless your husband wants you to talk. Then don’t you dare disappoint him. Says Reverend Tyrer:

“If [the husband] is intellectually inclined, and from time to time seeks to explain little things to her so that she may have at least a bare knowledge of what it is that interests him, and, without the slightest comment, she takes up again the fashion magazine she laid down when he commenced to speak, we may be pretty sure that there is going to be a ‘rift in the lute’ sooner or later in that house.”

2. Bad cooking will drive your man to seedy saloons

My god woman, this turkey tastes like wet toilet paper stuffed inside a burnt basketball. Have you no pride? Oh, you had a late shift at the hospital and then went straight to Timmy’s intervention? No excuses! Heed Reverend Tyrer!

A social service meeting, an afternoon tea, a matinee, a whatnot, is no excuse for there being no dinner ready when a husband comes home from a hard day’s work.

Housekeeping accomplishments and cooking ability are, of course, positive essentials in any true home, and every wife should take a reasonable pride in her skill. Happiness does not flourish in an atmosphere of dyspepsia.

Or listen to the even more plain-spoken Dr. William Josephus Robinson:

Bad cooking is responsible for dyspepsia, dyspepsia is responsible for grouchiness and irritability, grouchiness and irritability lead to quarrels and squabbles. And bad cooking, which is the usual thing in the average American home, has been responsible as much as any other factor for driving the husband to the saloon, and to other places. And when she does cook, she should cook, and not be, as somebody said, a mere can opener.

If you didn’t want your husband to become a syphilitic alcoholic, you should have learned to make a damn pot roast properly.

3. Be the Hot Steak, Not the Cheap Pork

Speaking of cooking, Reverend Tyrer has a metaphor for you.  

Picture a woman preparing a fine meal for her husband. “She remembered his choice of meat and was careful to get an extra-fine cut…her best cutlery and dishes and finest linen are all in evidence, and a little colorful decoration has been tastefully displayed….and as he comes into the house she greets him with a smile of welcome and a touch of manifest love.”  Now, say that linen was a bed sheet, the colorful little decoration was fuzzy handcuffs, and you had the privilege of being that extra fine cut of meat. What does all that equal? A husband who doesn’t cheat on you!

But say that same wife "is constantly setting him down to indigestible meals, cold and unappetizing, with nothing properly cooked, set out on a kitchen table with a dirty cloth, she need not be surprised if her husband frequently telephones from the office that business will prevent him from being home for dinner." 

All because you weren’t properly cooked when he was hungry!

4. But don't be a Sexual Vampire or a Frigid Franny

Of course, as Dr. Robinson tells us, it is possible to be over-cooked. Then you become  a “sexual vampire” and you will drive your husband to his grave, feasting on his life force.

Just as the vampire sucks the blood of its victims in their sleep while they are alive, so does the woman vampire suck the life and exhaust the vitality of her male partner—or "victim."

It is to be borne in mind that it is particularly older girls—girls between thirty and fifty—who are apt to be unreasonable in their demands when they get married; but no age is exempt; sexual vampires may be found among girls of twenty as well as among women of sixty and over.

The opposite of that is to be frigid, of course. That means you take no particular pleasure from the sexual act with your husband. Oh, "we should talk it out openly and honestly," you say? Maybe see a doctor, a therapist?

You disgust me. What do you think that will do to your husband’s ego?  Listen to Dr. Robinson and save your marriage!

Now, if you are one of those frigid or sexually anesthetic women, don’t be in a hurry to inform your husband about it. To the man it makes no difference in the pleasurableness of the act whether you are frigid or not unless he knows that you are frigid. And he won’t know unless you tell him, and what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him. Heed this advice. It has saved thousands of women from trouble.

5. Pink Panties are a must

And while we’re on the subject of you performing convincingly in the boudoir, you better be costumed correctly, too.

That the underwear should be spotlessly clean goes without saying, but every woman should wear the best quality underwear that she can afford. And the color should be preferably pink. And lace and ruffles, I am sorry to say, add to the attractiveness of underwear, and are liked by the average man.

6. Let him have a little fun now and then

What if your man strays after marriage? Well, Dr. Robinson is here for you again. He says that ultimately, a wife will react to infidelity as her heart dictates. But he still offers some advice.

Get over it.

But in case of an occasional lapse on the part of the husband—there a bit of advice may prove acceptable. And my advice would be: forgive and forget. Or still better—make believe that you know nothing. An occasional lapse from the straight path does not mean that he has ceased to love you. He may love you as much; he may love you a good deal more.

7. Your Husband is The Boss Of You

It is fitting to close with a simple truism from the renowned Eugenicist Prof. B.G. Jefferis, in his Searchlights on Health, The Science of Eugenics:

The Number One Rule. Reverence Your Husband.—He sustains by God’s order a position of dignity as head of a family, head of the woman. Any breaking down of this order indicates a mistake in the union, or a digression from duty.

Stop talking, slap on some pink drawers, and start worshipping!

[Randomguy]

I find absolutely zero fault in this.  Women would do well to follow the advice presented precisely.

The compiler of the collected advice is an idiot for trying to paint it as old-fashioned and ridiculous.  It is either a hysterical woman or an effeminate drone trying to curry some small amount of favor or acceptance from his overbearing emasculating wife.

[pedalphile]

See, back in the day we like to think now they knew fuck nothing, and it turns out they reall knew fuck ALL.

[late]

Hope you guys have a good lawyer.

[Randomguy]

32 minutes ago, pedalphile said:

See, back in the day we like to think now they knew fuck nothing, and it turns out they reall knew fuck ALL.

They really had a better handle on things, how the genders thought back then.  Nowadays, for the women, it is all about "me, me, me", many men simply forget how to be individuals when they got in relationships and lost the backbone to say "You know what?  Tonight we are going to do what I want to do" and "Quit your bitching, nobody wants to hear your bullshit" and "If you are moody because of your period, fix your attitude or go be bitchy by yourself".  

There are examples of really cool chicks out there that think and figure things out, rather than many that just read Cosmo and People magazine and believe that fairly tale worlds exist where men fart rose petals on the bed for Valentine's day and actually enjoy hearing about what celebrity said what about another celebrity,  but that shit is just not reality, and it is time that people speak plainly about it.

[pedalphile]

30 minutes ago, Randomguy said:

They really had a better handle on things, how the genders thought back then.  Nowadays, for the women, it is all about "me, me, me", many men simply forget how to be individuals when they got in relationships and lost the backbone to say "You know what?  Tonight we are going to do what I want to do" and "Quit your bitching, nobody wants to hear your bullshit" and "If you are moody because of your period, fix your attitude or go be bitchy by yourself".  

There are examples of really cool chicks out there that think and figure things out, rather than many that just read Cosmo and People magazine and believe that fairly tale worlds exist where men fart rose petals on the bed for Valentine's day and actually enjoy hearing about what celebrity said what about another celebrity,  but that shit is just not reality, and it is time that people speak plainly about it.

There are many and varied reasons why we are both single, my random internet chum, and I am more than very glad I am almost ecstatic to say that none of my reasons crossover with yours, and vice versa. ?

[Kzoo]

5.00 too long

[Razors Edge ★]

3 hours ago, jsharr said:

7 Tips for Keeping Your Woman (from the 1950s)

Disturbing advice from the mid-20th century. It’s about to get real.

1. Don't Talk

Oh, did Charlie from next door insult your prize winning Nova? Did little Timmy get sent home for starting fires again? That shooting pain in your left arm just keeps getting more intense? Keep it to yourself! Your woman works all through her day and the last thing she needs to hear about is yours.  Refer to the first four commandments on “How to be a Good Husband” Elizabeth Podolsky gives in her 1943 book, Sex Today in Wedded Life:

      Don’t bother your wife with petty troubles and complaints when she comes home from work.

      Be a good listener. Let her tell you her troubles; yours will seem trivial in comparison.

      Remember your most important job is to build up and maintain her ego (which gets bruised plenty in business). Morale is a man’s business.

      Let her relax before dinner. Discuss family problems after the inner woman has been satisfied.

In her 1951 book, Sex Satisfaction and Happy Marriage, Reverend Allison Henrieta Tyrer has more to add to that. Do not ask for things. This is called "nagging":

      I verily believe that the happiness of homes is destroyed more frequently by the habit of nagging than by any other one. A woman may stand that sort of thing (nagging) for a long time, but the chances are against her standing it permanently. If she needs peace to make life bearable, she will have to look for it elsewhere than in her own house. And it is quite likely that she will look.

Unless your wife wants you to talk. Then don’t you dare disappoint her. Says Reverend Tyrer:

      “If [the wife] is intellectually inclined, and from time to time seeks to explain little things to him so that she may have at least a bare knowledge of what it is that interests her, and, without the slightest comment, he takes up again the sports magazine he laid down when she commenced to speak, we may be pretty sure that there is going to be a ‘rift in the lute’ sooner or later in that house.”

2. Bad cooking will drive your woman to seedy saloons

My god man, this turkey tastes like wet toilet paper stuffed inside a burnt basketball. Have you no pride? Oh, you had a late shift at the shop and then went straight to Timmy’s intervention? No excuses! Heed Reverend Tyrer!

      A social service meeting, an afternoon tea, a matinee, a whatnot, is no excuse for there being no dinner ready when a wife comes home from a hard day’s work.

      Housekeeping accomplishments and cooking ability are, of course, positive essentials in any true home, and every husband should take a reasonable pride in his skill. Happiness does not flourish in an atmosphere of dyspepsia.

Or listen to the even more plain-spoken Dr. Wima Josephine Robinson:

      Bad cooking is responsible for dyspepsia, dyspepsia is responsible for grouchiness and irritability, grouchiness and irritability lead to quarrels and squabbles. And bad cooking, which is the usual thing in the average American home, has been responsible as much as any other factor for driving the wife to the saloon, and to other places. And when he does cook, he should cook, and not be, as somebody said, a mere can opener.

If you didn’t want your wife to become a syphilitic alcoholic, you should have learned to make a damn pot roast properly.

3. Be the Hot Steak, Not the Cheap Pork

Speaking of cooking, Reverend Tyrer has a metaphor for you.  

Picture a man preparing a fine meal for his wife. “He remembered her choice of meat and was careful to get an extra-fine cut…his best cutlery and dishes and finest linen are all in evidence, and a little colorful decoration has been tastefully displayed….and as she comes into the house he greets her with a smile of welcome and a touch of manifest love.”  Now, say that linen was a bed sheet, the colorful little decoration was fuzzy handcuffs, and you had the privilege of being that extra fine cut of meat. What does all that equal? A wife who doesn’t cheat on you!

But say that same husband "is constantly setting her down to indigestible meals, cold and unappetizing, with nothing properly cooked, set out on a kitchen table with a dirty cloth, he need not be surprised if his wife frequently telephones from the office that business will prevent her from being home for dinner." 

All because you weren’t properly cooked when she was hungry!

4. But don't be a Sexual Vampire or a Frigid Frank

Of course, as Dr. Robinson tells us, it is possible to be over-cooked. Then you become a “sexual vampire” and you will drive your wife to her grave, feasting on her life force.

      Just as the vampire sucks the blood of its victims in their sleep while they are alive, so does the man vampire suck the life and exhaust the vitality of his female partner—or "victim."

      It is to be borne in mind that it is particularly older boys—boys between thirty and fifty—who are apt to be unreasonable in their demands when they get married; but no age is exempt; sexual vampires may be found among boys of twenty as well as among men of sixty and over.

The opposite of that is to be frigid, of course. That means you take no particular pleasure from the sexual act with your wife. Oh, "we should talk it out openly and honestly," you say? Maybe see a doctor, a therapist?

You disgust me. What do you think that will do to your wife’s ego?  Listen to Dr. Robinson and save your marriage!

      Now, if you are one of those frigid or sexually anesthetic men, don’t be in a hurry to inform your wife about it. To the woman it makes no difference in the pleasurableness of the act whether you are frigid or not unless she knows that you are frigid. And she won’t know unless you tell her, and what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her. Heed this advice. It has saved thousands of men from trouble.

5. Pink Panties are a must

And while we’re on the subject of you performing convincingly in the boudoir, you better be costumed correctly, too.

      That the underwear should be spotlessly clean goes without saying, but every man should wear the best quality underwear that he can afford. And the color should be preferably pink. And lace and ruffles, I am sorry to say, add to the attractiveness of underwear, and are liked by the average woman.

6. Let her have a little fun now and then

What if your woman strays after marriage? Well, Dr. Robinson is here for you again. She says that ultimately, a husband will react to infidelity as his heart dictates. But she still offers some advice.

Get over it.

      But in case of an occasional lapse on the part of the wife—there a bit of advice may prove acceptable. And my advice would be: forgive and forget. Or still better—make believe that you know nothing. An occasional lapse from the straight path does not mean that she has ceased to love you. She may love you as much; she may love you a good deal more.

7. Your Wife is The Boss Of You

It is fitting to close with a simple truism from the renowned Eugene Levicist Prof. B.G. Jefferis, in her Searchlights on Health, The Science of Eugene Levy:

      The Number One Rule. Reverence Your Wife.—She sustains by God’s order a position of dignity as head of a family, head of the man. Any breaking down of this order indicates a mistake in the union, or a digression from duty.

Stop talking, slap on some pink drawers, and start worshiping!

I stopped reading when it told me to wear pink panties.

Purple? Sure! Lacey? Often! Clean? Please ?

But, sure, I see @jsharr mastering this stuff.

Tom