MoseySusan Posted December 24, 2014 Share #1 Posted December 24, 2014 Three pointers: 1) pre-rules: agree beforehand to leave hot topics out of the room 2) don't personalize: generalize social/political commentary 3) artful conversation: manage discussion with grace and studied disagreement Yah...like that's going to happen. The family who will be at my house tonight are total polar opposites. I hope I don't float away on the cross fields. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted December 25, 2014 Share #2 Posted December 25, 2014 You can all use my all purpose retort. BITE ME!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parsnip Totin Jack ★ Posted December 25, 2014 Share #3 Posted December 25, 2014 I use the reply "right" no matter what they say. They think I'm agreeing when I'm mocking them. Whisky strengthens the dam that holds my true thoughts back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JerrySTL ★ Posted December 25, 2014 Share #4 Posted December 25, 2014 Move 330 miles away. or further. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted December 25, 2014 Share #5 Posted December 25, 2014 I only have 1 sister......we don't do family get togethers ....and when we do get together I limit the the time. Don't need that kind of stress. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaddeus Kosciuszko Posted December 25, 2014 Share #6 Posted December 25, 2014 Directly. Most people - at least those of our generation - are 'trained' by society to be 'nice' and avoid conflict on such occasions. If a disagreement arises, I'll say to the disputing person(s) "This isn't the place for an angry conversation, and neither of you are going to convince the other. How about we drop the topic for something more pleasant?" Usually that works, simply because it sets people back a bit to hear so direct an approach. And if they continue to make the gathering disagreeable, then I endure as best I can. For that event. At the next one I either don't invite them or if it's someone else's event I don't go if the unpleasant people are going to show up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrAzY Posted December 25, 2014 Share #7 Posted December 25, 2014 I have a 9mm. Don't like me.. There's the door Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kzoo Posted December 25, 2014 Share #8 Posted December 25, 2014 Three pointers: 1) pre-rules: agree beforehand to leave hot topics out of the room 2) don't personalize: generalize social/political commentary 3) artful conversation: manage discussion with grace and studied disagreement Yah...like that's going to happen. The family who will be at my house tonight are total polar opposites. I hope I don't float away on the cross fields. These sound like the rules of the SquareDude Forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AirwickWithCheese Posted December 25, 2014 Share #9 Posted December 25, 2014 I have a 9mm. Don't like me.. There's the door I don't like.you but I got you 2 cheese logs. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrAzY Posted December 25, 2014 Share #10 Posted December 25, 2014 I don't like.you but I got you 2 cheese logs. I left you a Yule Log in your toilet... feel free to do whatever you want with it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted December 25, 2014 Share #11 Posted December 25, 2014 I don't see much of my family. Most of my family has passed. There are a few of us left but we are not close. I spend holidays with my husband and our friends. We moved a couple hundred miles away from all of our family many years ago. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pokey Posted December 25, 2014 Share #12 Posted December 25, 2014 Three pointers: 1) pre-rules: agree beforehand to leave hot topics out of the room 2) don't personalize: generalize social/political commentary 3) artful conversation: manage discussion with grace and studied disagreement Yah...like that's going to happen. The family who will be at my house tonight are total polar opposites. I hope I don't float away on the cross fields. As much as I love PBS...it can be comical without trying. Best of luck, Roadsue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoseySusan Posted December 25, 2014 Author Share #13 Posted December 25, 2014 Last night went ok. The conservative pholks ate dinner, made pleasant conversation, and then went home at 8:30 pm. They like to be in bed around 9 so it worked out alright. #2 son held a civil tongue also. Whew! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UglyBob Posted December 25, 2014 Share #14 Posted December 25, 2014 Here's a video from the family get together at my in-law's yesterday. We have to go back today... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoseySusan Posted December 25, 2014 Author Share #15 Posted December 25, 2014 Can't view your video in safety mode, Bob. Which, if it's any indication of the scene you'll return to today, is probably a good reason for you to belly up to jsharr's eggnog bar and throw back a few. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UglyBob Posted December 25, 2014 Share #16 Posted December 25, 2014 Can't view your video in safety mode, Bob. Which, if it's any indication of the scene you'll return to today, is probably a good reason for you to belly up to jsharr's eggnog bar and throw back a few. NOT ENOUGH ALCOHOL IN THAT BOTTLE!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoseySusan Posted December 25, 2014 Author Share #17 Posted December 25, 2014 A healthy dose of Benedryl, then? Sleeping in the recliner sounds just lovely. I wish you peace, friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UglyBob Posted December 25, 2014 Share #18 Posted December 25, 2014 A healthy dose of Benedryl, then? Sleeping in the recliner sounds just lovely. I wish you peace, friend. I might spike everyone's drinks and go for a ride after they pass out... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted December 25, 2014 Share #19 Posted December 25, 2014 I might spike everyone's drinks and go for a ride after they pass out... I was just oot there getting ice ice baby, and it is wonderfully deserted and warm out there! Windy though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoneWolf Posted December 26, 2014 Share #20 Posted December 26, 2014 I am so thankful that while my in-laws and I might be very different people, we get along. Most of the relatives on my side are great people. There are one or two that are different than me; if their personalities come into conflict, I don't react, or hide what I'm thinking. One or two are patronizing and don't realize that people see right through it, and they just aren't as smart as they think they are. It's not worth making an issue for someone you only see a few times a year, and as I really don't care what those people think of me, it's easy enough to let that slide. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destination Posted December 26, 2014 Share #21 Posted December 26, 2014 There are some who will make an inappropriate comment quite innocently, simply because they don't realize a statement or phrase is offensive. I have no problem with such people and by the end of the evening, most of those comments will be forgotten. If someone wants to use a holiday gathering as a chance to speak about the latest cause or moral outrage, that's another matter entirely. And the debaters who simply want to argue are enough to bring out my inner Grinch. (The Christmas Eve gathering this year was a wonderful experience which seemed to end too quickly.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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