Dirtyhip Posted November 5, 2020 Share #1 Posted November 5, 2020 I know he meant it kindly, as it was a local place, but I really do not like that. It is very demeaning to say that to a gal. I am not your honey, sweetie or babe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scrapr ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #2 Posted November 5, 2020 wait until construction starts! show up in high heels & pearls. You will be "honeyed" to death. Show up with boots, jeans & dirt under your nails & a smile. No honey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12string Posted November 5, 2020 Share #3 Posted November 5, 2020 You should call back, ask for his name, and order the ammunition, see if he still calls you "honey" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeman564™ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #4 Posted November 5, 2020 Same with being at a store or restaurant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisL Posted November 5, 2020 Share #5 Posted November 5, 2020 In certain regions of the country it’s a term often used. I think @MickinMD has mentioned it’s common in MD and I as well as my wife & kids have been referred to as honey by proprietors when visiting family in VA & NC. I have had women get offended when I call the. Ma’m. “I’m not an old lady don’t call me ma’m. Sorry ma’m, my military background no disrespect intended... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randomguy Posted November 5, 2020 Share #6 Posted November 5, 2020 I get honey or darlin' every now and then, and I kind of like it when it happens. No offense, just a reminder that they are from a different part of the country. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddmaxx ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #7 Posted November 5, 2020 Usually I get called hon by waitresses. It's pretty common in some areas and certain industries. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #8 Posted November 5, 2020 I love it when the call me "Miss"....makes me feel young...like getting carded for alcohol. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #9 Posted November 5, 2020 I love it when the call me "Miss"....makes me feel young...like getting carded for alcohol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kzoo Posted November 5, 2020 Share #10 Posted November 5, 2020 1 minute ago, petitepedal said: I love it when the call me "Miss"....makes me feel young...like getting carded for alcohol. I'll bet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kzoo Posted November 5, 2020 Share #11 Posted November 5, 2020 2 minutes ago, petitepedal said: I love it when the call me "Miss"....makes me feel young...like getting carded for alcohol. I'll bet. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted November 5, 2020 Author Share #12 Posted November 5, 2020 36 minutes ago, Scrapr said: wait until construction starts! show up in high heels & pearls. You will be "honeyed" to death. Show up with boots, jeans & dirt under your nails & a smile. No honey None of them have done that yet to me. I think they see me as an assertive woman. Seeing me ride to the site with a dirt unibrow is not that uncommon, either. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parsnip Totin Jack ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #13 Posted November 5, 2020 @MickinMDwould correct you. In Bawlmer it’s “hun” not “honey” 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #14 Posted November 5, 2020 52 minutes ago, Dirtyhip said: I know he meant it kindly, as it was a local place, but I really do not like that. It is very demeaning to say that to a gal. I am not your honey, sweetie or babe. what if he called you a gal? I said good bye "guys and gals" to end a group call with our credit card processor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisL Posted November 5, 2020 Share #15 Posted November 5, 2020 12 minutes ago, jsharr said: what if he called you a gal? I said good bye "guys and gals" to end a group call with our credit card processor. Is it offensive if I address a mixed group of males & females as “guys”? I do this often and should probably change that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootingstar Posted November 5, 2020 Share #16 Posted November 5, 2020 1 hour ago, Randomguy said: I get honey or darlin' every now and then, and I kind of like it when it happens. No offense, just a reminder that they are from a different part of the country. To me, this is quite American (in some regions). In most regions in CAnada and I've lived in 3 different regions, I don't get the honey/darling/sweetie salutation. Maybe less than 5 times in my life...which is pretty good for over 6 decades. And that was me in the U.S. Maybe I was called that as a child. But I don't remember/recall. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted November 5, 2020 Author Share #17 Posted November 5, 2020 38 minutes ago, jsharr said: what if he called you a gal? I said good bye "guys and gals" to end a group call with our credit card processor. Perfectly fine. I am a gal. I identify as female. Some might be bothered, like if they were trans. You can't always assume. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12string Posted November 5, 2020 Share #18 Posted November 5, 2020 I only get called "honey" when I wear my pink shirt 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parr8hed Posted November 5, 2020 Share #19 Posted November 5, 2020 1 hour ago, Randomguy said: I get honey or darlin' every now and then, and I kind of like it when it happens. No offense, just a reminder that they are from a different part of the country. Same Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #20 Posted November 5, 2020 I don’t mind being called hon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
groupw Posted November 5, 2020 Share #21 Posted November 5, 2020 I get called hon once in a while. It doesn’t bother me. Like @ChrisL, I call a collective group “guys” in a casual setting. I have yet to have anyone take issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #22 Posted November 5, 2020 One of my bosses would tell the customer "one of the girls will take care of it" or "I'll give it to one of the girls"....I called him on it..said would you say "one of the boys will take care of it"...true enough he would have used the guy's proper name.."Jim will take care of it"...Don't know if it ever sunk in..our department got absorbed...and I left not long after. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralphie ★ Posted November 5, 2020 Share #23 Posted November 5, 2020 1 hour ago, petitepedal said: One of my bosses would tell the customer "one of the girls will take care of it" or "I'll give it to one of the girls"....I called him on it..said would you say "one of the boys will take care of it"...true enough he would have used the guy's proper name.."Jim will take care of it"...Don't know if it ever sunk in..our department got absorbed...and I left not long after. That reminds me of Airplane! “Cmon boys, let’s take some pictures.” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirby Posted November 5, 2020 Share #24 Posted November 5, 2020 My reaction varies depending on the person and context. In a professional work setting, where I thought the term was dismissive, I would likely be offended, or if it was some creepy guy you don't know. But if it's an older person using it as a general friendly term, or clearly a regional usage that is just standard and friendly, I don't mind. Same with other regional terms of "endearment" - all depends on the context. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtyhip Posted November 5, 2020 Author Share #25 Posted November 5, 2020 2 minutes ago, Kirby said: My reaction varies depending on the person and context. In a professional work setting, where I thought the term was dismissive, I would likely be offended, or if it was some creepy guy you don't know. But if it's an older person using it as a general friendly term, or clearly a regional usage that is just standard and friendly, I don't mind. Same with other regional terms of "endearment" - all depends on the context. I really believe he was just happy to be selling a gift certificate to me. I said that I like their meat market and like to keep biz local, instead of a boring Harry and David gift basket. "Thanks, honey." then later "Appreciate your business, Honey." I should relax about it. Thanks, Kirb. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zephyr Posted November 6, 2020 Share #26 Posted November 6, 2020 7 hours ago, shootingstar said: In most regions in CAnada and I've lived in 3 different regions, I don't get the honey/darling/sweetie salutation. It is common in the Maritimes, and most common in Cape Breton and Newfoundland. Not nearly a big a deal out here in BC, but have heard it in rural Alberta and rural Saskatchewan in small towns Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootingstar Posted November 6, 2020 Share #27 Posted November 6, 2020 1 hour ago, Zephyr said: It is common in the Maritimes, and most common in Cape Breton and Newfoundland. Not nearly a big a deal out here in BC, but have heard it in rural Alberta and rural Saskatchewan in small towns I'm glad not to use it myself on anyone except for dearie. Of course, other speaking habits which one has to work at... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MickinMD ★ Posted November 6, 2020 Share #28 Posted November 6, 2020 15 hours ago, Dirtyhip said: I know he meant it kindly, as it was a local place, but I really do not like that. It is very demeaning to say that to a gal. I am not your honey, sweetie or babe. Maybe he's from Maryland. I think it must be a state law that every fifth sentence has to end with the word "Hon." I got called that today by the woman pharmacist from whom I got my Freestyle Libre blood glucose meter. I didn't even think anything of it at the time because it's it's the local way: I've even been called "Hon" by teenage cashiers, so the tradition continues. Someone modified a sign on the Baltimore - Washington Parkway to read "Welcome to Baltimore, Hon." Unfortunately, the officials took away the "Hon." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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