groupw Posted February 28, 2019 Share #1 Posted February 28, 2019 Got a phone call from Mom at 3:30 this morning that my dad passed away in his sleep. The dog woke her. She thought she wanted out, but she went to Dad’s chair. His breathing was erratic and he never revived. We sat with Mom for a couple hours. There was a collective numbness and relief that he is no longer in pain. The last couple years were pretty rough! We will meet again at the funeral home for final arrangements. We had pre-paid a while back when things were getting bad for him. We wanted to do so while he was lucid and we could ask his wishes. 19 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffJim Posted February 28, 2019 Share #2 Posted February 28, 2019 Sorry to hear that. Prayers. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Razors Edge ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #3 Posted February 28, 2019 Certainly a tough time ahead for you all as you sort through the emotions of losing a loved one. Hopefully you got the chance to say your goodbyes and can take comfort that he is off to a better place. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donkpow Posted February 28, 2019 Share #4 Posted February 28, 2019 My condolences to you and yours. It's good that arrangements were made ahead of time. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisL Posted February 28, 2019 Share #5 Posted February 28, 2019 Sorry to hear, condolences to you & your family. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddmaxx ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #6 Posted February 28, 2019 Condolences to you and your family. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
groupw Posted February 28, 2019 Author Share #7 Posted February 28, 2019 Over the last 9 years, we probably said goodbyes 6 or 7 times when he was not expected to leave the hospital. I saw him yesterday to help mom get him into the house after a surgical procedure for a pain pump. It was apparently just too much for his very weak body. No regrets. He would shut down a lot in groups the last couple years. I was glad he was active in conversation when youngest daughter was back a couple weeks ago. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MickinMD ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #8 Posted February 28, 2019 36 minutes ago, groupw said: Got a phone call from Mom at 3:30 this morning that my dad passed away in his sleep. The dog woke her. She thought she wanted out, but she went to Dad’s chair. His breathing was erratic and he never revived. We sat with Mom for a couple hours. There was a collective numbness and relief that he is no longer in pain. The last couple years were pretty rough! We will meet again at the funeral home for final arrangements. We had pre-paid a while back when things were getting bad for him. We wanted to do so while he was lucid and we could ask his wishes. Sorry for your loss. I've been there with both parents. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petitepedal ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #9 Posted February 28, 2019 So sorry..sending prayers and hugs to your family 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kzoo Posted February 28, 2019 Share #10 Posted February 28, 2019 My condolences Group. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital_photog ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #11 Posted February 28, 2019 So sorry for your loss. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dinneR ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #12 Posted February 28, 2019 Sorry to hear this. Hopefully, it brings peace to you and your family. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 28, 2019 Share #13 Posted February 28, 2019 Sorry for your loss. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheep_herder ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #14 Posted February 28, 2019 Sure sorry for your loss. We'll keep you in our thoughts and prayers. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randomguy Posted February 28, 2019 Share #15 Posted February 28, 2019 I am very sorry to hear this, at least you had time to plan and to honor his wishes, and I am glad you had a chance to say goodbye. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeman564™ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #16 Posted February 28, 2019 so sorry 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rattlecan ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #17 Posted February 28, 2019 My sincere condolences. It's never easy to say goodbye to a parent, even if it's time for them to go. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsharr ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #18 Posted February 28, 2019 My deepest condolences on your loss. I know that words do not exist that could take away your pain. I wish you peace and strength. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12string Posted February 28, 2019 Share #19 Posted February 28, 2019 Praying for you. Don't feel bad about feeling good about it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirby Posted February 28, 2019 Share #20 Posted February 28, 2019 I am very sorry to hear this. Even though you are comforted by the fact he's not in pain anymore, it's always hard to lose a loved one. I'm glad you could be there for your Mom to help handle things. Having you there made a big difference to her. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dottleshead ★ Posted February 28, 2019 Share #21 Posted February 28, 2019 Sorry for your loss. This thread hits home with my dad's current situation. He snapped his femur and is on the operating table as we speak. He's 86 and no guarantees. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrentonMakes Posted February 28, 2019 Share #22 Posted February 28, 2019 sorry to hear. Wishing you and your family strength going forward. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootingstar Posted March 1, 2019 Share #23 Posted March 1, 2019 I'm sorry to hear of this, groupw. How old was he? Great you were with your mother to help her. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
groupw Posted March 1, 2019 Author Share #24 Posted March 1, 2019 He would have been 81 at the end of March. He had a pain pump installed yesterday but he seemed ok after the procedure aside from being very tired. It must have been too much for him. We knew it was a risk going in. He is no longer in pain. We are a mix of numb and relieved. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilbur ★ Posted March 1, 2019 Share #25 Posted March 1, 2019 Condolences, groupw. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Further Posted March 1, 2019 Share #26 Posted March 1, 2019 My condolences for your dad and I hope your mom is OK, it will be a huge adjustment for her. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Wheels Posted March 1, 2019 Share #27 Posted March 1, 2019 So very sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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